Update on my weekend dilemmas....

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damwinston
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   Posted 5/24/2005 1:30 PM (GMT -7)   
First, thank you all for reading and posting. I know that it was a long a confusing story. It is that way to me to and I have had to live through it.
I did NOT go to the wedding - but I did want to. Instead I went and hung out with some old friends from high school - it was pretty fun. They asked me about both Laura and Cathy and I just said that I didn't really talk to them anymore. Then they (the friends from this weekend) all started talking bad about the two of them. It was funny because they looked at me - usually I would have said "say what you want but don't say it when I am around." This time I said "I don't think that I am in the position to take up for the two of them anymore but I would rather talk about us - not them. YEAH for ME!!!
SC - you are right. I don't want to deal with Cathy again. Not after the way that she treated my mom. That is what I was talking about when I said that is what scared me. It scares me to know that me, the one who invites EVERYONE in (I have a felon living in my backyard at my parents house if that gives you any idea but that is another story and he is good to me and my parents) would not open the door for Cathy, Laura sure (until she started yelling at me) but Cathy no. That bridge was burned and although I don't think that I was the one who burned it I sure do not feel like rebuilding it.
Your recommendation that I sit on the groom's side was funny - that is what I was going to do. The divorce thing isn't so funny, but I bet it is true. This is a girl that I have never seen stay faithful to one guy (including this one).
Anyway, crisis averted.
Thanks for all of your good advice!!!
love,
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.


AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 5/25/2005 1:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Dammy,

Glad you found some friends to hang out with that night!! You get a huge pat on the back for ending the back biting too!! Glad this has passed and you are feeling better about things.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie
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Having2LeftFeet
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   Posted 5/25/2005 10:09 AM (GMT -7)   
mad  Forgive type-o's
 
Dammy,
O,O,O,O,O.......this is an "old to familiar" story, so much so that I went back to your first post on this. First of all, I don't blame you for getting angry about your so-called-friend calling your BF concerning your meds. That's your business and you business alone along with your Doc. That's why they take the "hypocritical" oath. FIRST DO NO HARM! She is not, I take it, a doctor. Tell her to BUTT OUT. Since she was generous to pass this along with others, reward her by not being her friend anymore.
 
What a friend you are by buying her a gift even after all she had done to hurt you. Kudos to you, kiddo!
 
O,O,O,O,O....this is so funny, not funny Ha-Ha but just again O too familiar. You were sluring your words???? I think you and I are cloned. Whenever I have a seizure, I slur my words for sometimes days at a time. My sister did the same thing. I have been clean from pain killers for over 1,200+ days and about 5 months ago, I called my mom and my BUTT-IN-SKY sister told my mom that I sounded drugged up. She is a total female dog. Dammy, as I read on, since I did print this, I can't believe that "friends" or so they say, could treat you so badly. They are not friends. Lets see.....you are crazy and nuts???? My mother who is 84 has a lot of MOM-A-Lees. One is "If you spit up in the air it may hit you in the face". In other words, they better curb their insults cause you never know what can strike you next. What was the purpose of the E mail, just to upset you more. Block them. Don't take anymore E mails fromthem as it does upset you so bad.
 
This is getting me even mad. You weren't invited to the wedding??? What's the matter, they think you to NUTS to go????? Dammy, forget these people. You have so many friends here. You don't need them. They are not your friends. Another mom-a-lee. Beware of wolfs in sheeps clothing. Why put yourself through that pain and agony. Let it go, hun.
 
As for being kind to Cathy or anyone else, sometimes we have to look at the entire picture. Things may not seem what they appear to be. You can't see the entire elephant unless you walk around it.
 
OK....Ideas? I think you are a very brave person. I think you handled things the adult way and in a manner that makes you look like a hero, not a nut case. There are times in our lives when we have to throw caution to the wind and I think, my friend, this is one of those times. Let them go. Let you let them go. Let go and let God. He will never leave you or forsake you. He died for all of us so we could have eternal life. He is the only one constant in my life. I thank Him over and over. What they did to you was wrong. What my sister did to me was wrong. I gave it to her but good. I told her she was a stuck-up, nosey "female dog" and that she didn't know squat about my medical problems. I have Lupus and they all turn their heads. Thank God I live 1,200 miles away from them...all of them. Dammy, I know this sounds so easy to say and hard to do, but with friends like that, you need no other enemies. You are too sweet a person to have friends like that. If it means starting from scratch in the friend department, do it cause the one's you have now are worse than none at all. I will pray for you to have the strength. I will pray for your family especially your Mom. I hope she is on the mend. Remember, your friends re here.
 
Love,
"Lefty"  
 
 
There is no such word as can't. Can't simply means wouln't. Grab as much as life as you can. Future is a long way away for those who don't believe. Don't build a foundation of life on sand. It will take it away with the tide. Love a little more, be unkind a lot less.


damwinston
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   Posted 5/27/2005 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   
To all:
Thanks. All that I can think about when I think about them is The Gambler by Kenny Rodgers
You have to know when to hold them
Know when to fold them
Know when to walk away and
Know when to run.
Yes Lefty I should look at the whole elephant - but with them I am afraid that I will end up at the elephant's rear and get pooped on again!!!
My "Mom-A-Lee" as you call it is:
Birdy, birdy in the sky
Dropped a poopy in my eye
My I'm glad that cows can't fly

You are all right but that doesn't make it quit hurting.
What amazes me the most is that she had a wedding website which asked for all sorts of things - that is fine. But at the end she/they asked for contributions to their honeymoon. Is it just me or is that tacky??
Thank you all for your advice - maybe I will block them, at least Cathy.
Love,
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.


damwinston
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   Posted 5/27/2005 11:23 PM (GMT -7)   

P.S. My mom is doing great. She is even back at work and everything.

Besides the two of them I am a lucky girl.

love,

dammy


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damwinston
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   Posted 5/28/2005 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
SC -
I forgot the best part.
The registry was amazing. Waterford Crystal. $300 Power Tools. Donations to charities (that was kind of nice). And then they asked for money for their "dream" honeymoon.
They had a wedding website with all these links - one was to where they were going on their honeymoon.
It is in Playa del Carmen Mexico (I don't know if I spelled that right). But here is the best part. On the link to the honeymoon place they put how much the rooms cost!!!
This means that, if they got the CHEAPEST room possible, (which Laura would never do) it was $525 per night. For 11 days. A grand total of $5,775.
My last car (a used Volvo which I can't drive so my boyfriend is driving it) cost $6,000.
And there were 30 people in the wedding party. I don't think that I even like 30 people!!!
I know it is true about friends - if they were real friends they wouldn't have left me when I needed them most. Here is a funny story about that one also:
Quite a few years ago (7 I think) my doc prescribed Elavil for me. Elavil workes great for some people - I am NOT one of them. My parents called 911 because they were so worried about me (we didn't know it was the Elavil and they thought that I was ODing) which only made me madder. So I called Laura and told her that I needed some help. In her defense I will say that she drove about 40 miles (each way) to come and get me. Then she took me to her house, put me in her bed and went out to a bar!! When I woke up in the morning I had to call my mom to come get me (Laura had gotten in at 6 that morning) which kind of defeated the purpose of running away. Laura did tell me that when they got home (at 6 in the morning) she came in to make sure that I was breathing.
It is good that I wasn't ODing (which is what they all though rather than it just being the Elavil) or I would have been dead long before 6 in the morning.
Oh well, life goes on.
love to all,
dammy
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Teri16
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   Posted 5/29/2005 8:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Dammy, I just had to put my 2 cents in here...I've read some of your posts re this wedding and I'm simply amazed! I must live a completely sheltered life! Maybe we could all start up our own websites and let people know what we'd like! :) Unbelievable!!

I, also, love your choice in songs! Best wishes to you!

Big Hugs, Teri :)
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damwinston
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   Posted 5/29/2005 8:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Teri -
It blew my mind as well - asking for money for your honeymoon!!
I wonder what Emily Post would say about me buying her a present for her wedding and the she disinvited me. Shouldn't she have returned it to me??
I wouldn't have taken it back but I think that might have been the proper thing to do.
love,
dammy
P.S. I am not married nor do I have a wedding registry - but if someone could just buy me a car that would be cool - maybe you all could chip in!! LOL. Ridiculous!!!
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Teri16
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   Posted 5/29/2005 9:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Just put up your website, Dammy, you never know?! lol Hugs, Teri :)
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