Lonely and Depressed

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Adria
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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 6/23/2005 10:58 PM (GMT -7)   
sad  Hello everyone. I just discovered this new site. It looks like their is a lot of support offered in here. I guess I'm here because of loneliness. I do have good people in my life like my husband and kids, but I don't have many friends and a very disfunctional family that is non-supportive. I long for backyard barbeques and holidays that don't feel lonely. I have become increasing sad which means a good cry every day and hopelessness about the future. I can't seem to lift the cloud that follows me around. I have put on some weight because I eat when I really don't need to.  I have thought about antidepressents, but I have heard they make you gain weight. Which I don't need. I have gone to the doctor and tip toed around the fact that I don't feel well, but I don't come clean about how I feel emotionally because I'm afraid that they'll think I'm crazy. I  work only during the school year and keeping busy makes me feel better, but when my busy schedule calms down, it all hits me like a ton of bricks. I'm good at hiding my sadness and my co-workers would probably be surprised if they know how bad I feel sometimes. I take care of myself and my children, but I find it hard to get through my days. I know this all sound very freakish, but I hope someone can relate to how I'm feeling.

AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 6/24/2005 9:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Adria,

Come clean with your doctor. He deals with this a lot . . . so he should be understanding. Sometimes these symptoms can be brought on by an underlying illness or defitiency too. So it would be a good idea to give your doc ALL the info.

We really are creatures of habit and many of us like a regimine. You don't sound crazy to me!

Keep posting and check back with the doc. If you can't talk to him, write it alldown and send it or bring it in to your visit.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie      "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
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RebeccaZ
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   Posted 6/24/2005 9:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm no expert.... except with myself....but I think you need to talk to your doctor HONESTLY about how you feel.... he can point you in the right direction about meds....and they wont think you're crazy!! It would blow your mind to know how many people they talk to on a daily basis on the same subject!!
And don't worry about weight gain just yet.... if you're an emotional eater (like me) and meds are making you feel better.... maybe you will be more active and want to do more!!

I have been where you are.... I am there almost daily. I'm in a depression I can't seem to dig out of.... meds help some, therapy helps more. No one thing works for everyone. You have to try different things until you find what works for you. Hope you find the right fit! Good luck!!
Peace, love, and hope.... Rebecca
 
"I quit, I give up, nothing's good enough for anybody else
it seems.....everything is temporary anyway....."
 
from the song "circle of friends" by Edie Brickell


always sad
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   Posted 6/24/2005 12:36 PM (GMT -7)   
hi Lonely and depressed you sound just like me, you know you can get help and no one will think your crazy talk to your doctor and he/she could probably recommend a therapist. For me it has really help to talk to a therapist, it has really help me to focus on what I have to  everyday instead of feeling depressed. I still have the same problem, like if I don't have anything to do it really hits me, but the therapist has helped me in recognizing what makes me sad and why and how to stop letting those thoughts from ruining my days.

myusername
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   Posted 6/24/2005 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
I can relate to what you said about being able to hide how you're feeling. Everyone thinks I'm so happy. If they only knew the truth...

What you've heard about meds is true (and weight gain can occur regardless of how much you eat or exercise), although it varies from person to person and is only the tip of a potentially life altering iceberg. That said, they can offer help to some people.

AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 6/24/2005 3:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Sad and Name!!!!

Glad to see you joining in on posting!!! Glad to have you.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie      "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease), Hashimoto's, Plantar Fasciitis, Inflamatory Arthritis, High BP, GI Inflamation, Diverticuloses
Plaquenil, Methotrexate, Metanx, Synthroid, RX Motrin, Lexapro, Amitriptelyne, Salagen, Lotrel
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Cloudy30
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   Posted 6/24/2005 7:56 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi,

I understand the place that you are in.  I too only work during the school year and my coworkers would not have a clue that I have depression or that I go to therapy two times a week.  I am not comfortable revealing it because there is a fear that I will be judged.

Like others have said, start by talking with your doctor honestly and he/she can direct you to a therapist if you would prefer to start there first.  Its hard to have a nonsupportive family it really is, I have been in the process of building my  own support system because the reality is my family doesn't understand.  A therapist can be a huge support especially if you are feeling a lone or isolated.

Please let us know how we can support you.  Let us know how you are doing.


Adria
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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 6/24/2005 9:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to everyone that has responded to my message. I will keep in touch.

kokoe
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   Posted 6/24/2005 9:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Adria.....I just wanted to tell you that I hide behind a mask.  I spend all of my days crying, curled up in a ball and I am so lonely that sometimes it feels like I just want to die.  I have been ill for a very long time.  Little by little my friends gave up on me and my family does not understand, I think they feel helpless.  I know I do.  The hopelessness covers me like a blanket and I get so tired of hiding it.  Just because I don't want to live depressed all of the time, it does not mean that I do not want to live or that I am suicidal.  However I do not think there are to many people who have not had that thought at least once in their life.  I have a disease that there is no cure for. Lyme Disease.  I have lost the last 13 years of my life.  I am confined to a bed and isolated from the outside world.  If it were not for my faith, I do not know what I would do.  I really believe you will come through this victorious,  God may have a special plan for your life and you have to go through this in order to be effective in what he has for you.  I know how hard it is to get up.  Sometimes I cry because I wake up and have to go through it all another day.  No one understands unless they have been there.  The main thing is there are meds out there that will help.  Not all of them cause weight gain.  The next thing to do is Talk.  Find someone you can let all of your feelings out to.  It helps me to tell the total truth about the way I feel about life,  I go through more kleenex than Moby **** had minnows!  You are not alone and you are not crazy.  It is not your fault and it is not in your head.  Nobody wants to feel like this all of the time.  It is horrible. Adria...I am here for you anytime,,,day or night...I do not want to push you but if you decide you would like my e-mail just say the word.  Maybe we can help one another. :-)    You hang in there and don't be so hard on yourself.  Some times we all need to lean.  I am leaning....you can lean on me and we can hold one another up!!  That should be a pretty picture tongue .....Bye for now and I hope to hear from you!!!    Kokoe

AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 6/27/2005 6:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Kokoe!!!

I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad for so long. *hugs*

Are you confined in bed with depression or some other chronic illness?

Just want you to know that you are not alone!! Lots of friendly people here.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie      "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease), Hashimoto's, Plantar Fasciitis, Inflamatory Arthritis, High BP, GI Inflamation, Diverticuloses
Plaquenil, Methotrexate, Metanx, Synthroid, RX Motrin, Lexapro, Amitriptelyne, Salagen, Lotrel
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Tracey D
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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 6/27/2005 7:18 PM (GMT -7)   
I too have been in the same boat. To be totally honest you really need to speak to your Dr about this and maybe get some meds into you. Not all anti-depressants put on weight. That was always one thing that I would make sure with the Dr before he would medicate. I am normal in weight but suffered with anorexia when I was a teenager so that was one thing that I didn't want. When you see the Dr ask if he can put you on a med that doesn't have weight gain as a side effect. I know that Prozac didn't put weight on with me but Prothiaden definately did. I too was a great hidder of my emotional problems but you really need to express your concerns with somebody.

Trace


droll
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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 6/28/2005 11:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi

I am another new member.  I usually hang out on the migraine forum because I suffer from very severe ones.  I have a wonderful family, 3 children (all 5 and under) and a loving wife.  Because the migraines have ruined my quality of life and the ability to enjoy my family I have become severely depressed.  I am curently taking Wellbutrin and Zoloft which help some.  No meds can change the facts though.  I am depressed because of the migraines and the doctors have not been able to find the right combination to get them under control.  It is a vicious circle.  The meds help but is depressing to think I might have to depend on them the rest of my life if no solution is found for the migraines.

I do not know one person who truly understands how sad it is to miss out on family things because they have to go to bed with a migraine or suddenly need a ride to ER because they can't take it anymore.

Sorry, didn't mean to ramble so much!

droll

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