Mesh...I'm sorry, but he sounds so selfish. This man should be responsible for either making sure his family understands and is accepting of you or letting them know that their attitude towards you is completely unacceptable. What you've described is a one sided relationship and you don't deserve this. You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally, support you always and NEVER make you feel guilty because you're sick.
You need to do what's best for you and create an environment that is peaceful and loving....even it if means you have to be alone. Being/feeling nurtured is what a relationship is all about...you should never consider it as "regressing". If you have to feel guilty every time you ask for a hug, take a nap or simply deal with your illness....IMO, it's time for you to really reflect on why is this man in your life. Again, you deserve waaay more!
Hey Mesh....I agree with UCForme! I am new to this room. I have Ulcerative Colitis, Epilepsy, Migraines, Infertility and Severe Depression. Let me tell you something girlfriend, if it were not for my husband's love and understanding...I would not be here to try to help you.Please do not take this offensivly, but can you picture your partner w/someone with all my illnesses!!!! I cannot even work!My husband is a physician and I am such a baby that I cant be away from my sister (I am 43 by the way), so we have a home where my husband practices medicine and he bot me a home on the other side of the state to be near my sister,neice and bro-in-law.My husband works in the ER and is never available for me, so he has set me up to try to make me happy and have a life..WRONG! Honey, you have a disease that is not your fault, Do not ever let him, his family or anyone else for that matter judge you.Can they walk in your shoes???I doubt it. It sounds to me like their choice is to live in denial. I am with you. I HAVE TO TALK THINGS OUT!Honey, YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO, and I think you know it. TALK TO HIM!!!You have nothing to lose.When someone loves you, it should be unconditional, not depending on how you feel that day! Crohn's sucks the life out of you, that is why you need his support. Trust me my brother has lived with it for years. Don't be afraid. As Lance Armstrong would say "JUST DO IT". Take care and we are here for you and your feelings.
Peace and sunshine,