Hello Daffy ..
Do you like to read?
I'm actually going to school with psychology as my major. I've experienced many many highs and lows of depression in my life.
I've been seeing a psychologist for a couple of months now for severe depression. Some of the things that he points out .. are my views on life and with myself .. for example:
"I never do anything right."
"Everything is my fault."
"I don't want to talk to this person about my problems because he's just going to .. <insert something here>."
My doctor first suggested this book called .. "Feeling Good: The new mood therapy" by David D. Burns, M.D.
The book is based on the theory of cognitive behavorial therapy. Basically .. the .. 'i think, therefore i am' thing.
I spent and entire session .. arguing with him heh .. "All this book does is teach you how to play word games." .. "I don't think something like this will work .. you're only tricking yourself." .. "My reality is logical and justifiable .. what's a switch in words gonna do?"
Ok .. So .. I decided that .. what better way to strenghten my point against his little book than to buy it and read it hehe ..
It makes a lot of sense. When a person is depressed .. they end up creating an alternate reality that is no longer logical or rational. I spent the past 15 years of my life believing that it was "my fault" what happened in 1991 .. and that all of the things that followed were "deserved" etc ..
Just a basic point of this book is .. for example .. You're driving along on a road somewhere (guess that's better than a sidewalk eh? :) .. and you hit an animal and that animal dies. How do you react? Some don't have a second thought and just keep driving .. some put the car in park and cry .. some really feel horrible about what just happened. Now .. the trick of it is .. You don't feel a certain way about the actual incident .. You think a certain way about it .. and that thought alone .. is what creates your emotional reaction.
So when a person says .. "I never do anything right." .. that's called an overgeneralization. Because you have done things right. But being a depressed person you look over those positive moments.
This is where I started arguing with my Psychologist heh .. I told him .. "What's the difference between saying .. "I'm useless" or .. what the book / he'd prefer me to say or think .. "Ok, so I'm just not very helpful in this particular incident." Eh I hate word games .. but it works.
Anyways .. I'm rambling :) Sorry! A month ago .. I didn't think I'd ever suggest this book to anyone .. ever! But I'm applying the information that I learned from that book .. to my daily life and my daily problems .. and it works.
Cognitive behavoral therapy .. can do wonders.