Dear big Daddy, my heart breaks for your heartache. I can see that you're ONLY concern is for her. You DO love her dearly or you wouldn't be here. I think (and I'm NOT a doctor) and I'm gonna say this in a very generalized way.....but I think since you ARE a man, well, men seem to like to fix things. Its how God wired us. And seeing as you cant FIX your daughter, well, thats got your mind in all sorts of an uproar as it goes against your natural instincts to help her.
But I will say this, antidepressants can help you. If you dont want to try them, then try some St. Johns Wort over the counter, herbal anxiety/depression remedy. It can help. Or even SamE...its the latest and greatest so they say for herbal natural treatments. These are only suggestions. But, I wanted to add that taking an antidepressant should NOT adversely affect your military career in any way shape or form. Unless you were to become paryalyzed by your mental status, meaning you cant function and do your job anymore because you're so depressed, well then they have every right to medically discharge you. But for seeking help and treatment, no, they cant touch you.
I was Active Duty AF for 4 yrs and worked in teh mental health clinic so I'm familiar w/protocol in that area. I saw many folks d/c'd for their severe mental status, such as schizophrenia or bipolar that is not controlled. But these medicines available today allow us to function normally. They may have a few side effects in the beginnign, but usually after 2 weeks or so, your body gets used to them and those side effects disappear. I'm on Paxil 10mgs and I take it every other day, not everyday as it makes me sleepy and crave sweets...lol Not a good thing when I need to be watching my figure! lol
I wish you the very best, please keep us posted. There's a Depression Chat room available to you under CHAT above. Click on it and log in, there's usually someone chatting at all hours!
Stay strong, both your wife (whom you DO need to "jive" with for your daughter's sake) and your daughter need you terribly right now to be strong and be the authority in the family. You can do this. For their sake. Pray about
it, He'll carry you and give you the mercy and grace you so desperately need right now.
All my best,
Hugs and God Bless You, Beth
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Fibro, RA, Costo, Endo, IBS-D, Anxiety-2004
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