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Cathy89
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Date Joined May 2004
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   Posted 11/6/2005 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, my name is Cathy and my husband, Ron, has been diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder - depressed type AND Psychotic Depression. He's been seeing a psychiatrist for the last 13 years (he's on his 2nd one and she's better than his first one) plus a psychologist for about a year, but until recently was never diagnosed... just given meds to treat symptoms. He takes Geodon (80mg in the morning and 160mg at suppertime) and 100mg Provigil in the morning. He also had a Neuro-Psych test done 2 years ago which shows him functioning at a mildly retarded level. He grew up believing he was just dyslexic! (but that's another story)
 
The company he worked at for 16 years closed it's doors this June and he's been trying to find a job with the help of Goodwill Industries. He was hired by a janitor service and lasted 2½ days before having an anxiety/panic attack.
 
He recently admitted to a crisis team member that he's felt afraid for his safety as well as mine and our son's since 9/11. (Post-Traumatic Stress?)
 
Anyway, I called Ron's psychatrist(with his permission) and left a message that I think she needs to check the medicine issue... I think he needs something different.
 
I'm beginning to feel like my life is falling apart; I know it's not but it's hard to be strong all the time! (I've thought of giving Ron the boot and asking for a separation but I can't do that because his mental health issues are not his fault... it's not like he's cheating on me... it would be easier if he was!! LOL)  I've got our son, Jeremy, who just turned 13 in October to think about too. I know this is also hard him but he handles this better than me sometimes! He's seen a counselor about all of this before and the counselor told me that Jeremy's better adjusted than he(the counselor) is! Jeremy is a straight A student. He plays the trumpet and french horn in the school band and is VERY into animals.... he wants to be a Herpetologist!
 
Thanks for listening. I just needed to vent my frustration somewhere and I thought of this forum because I'm familiar with the site as I have Crohn's Disease and have posted on that forum before.
 
TTFN ~ Cathy
 
 
NEVER GIVE UP.... GOD WON'T GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE! 
FINE = Freaked out, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional


CheerDad
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   Posted 11/6/2005 12:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Cathy Welcom. Just letting you know that my thoughts are with you. Please feel free to vent whenever necessary. Sometimes we can offer help but always we will listen. Good luck and keep us posted.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
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AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 11/6/2005 1:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hugs and Blessings Cathy!!! You are a very strong woman. May God give you strength each day to deal with your difficulties.
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie          "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
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sadsunshine
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   Posted 11/6/2005 2:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Cathy,
This a warm, caring, supportive group of people.
It takes a lot of strength and courage and love to support someone who has severe issues like your husband does. I don't have any advice to offer, just an ear when you need to vent.

Take care, come back as often as you need to.

Sadsunshine

Cathy89
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Date Joined May 2004
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   Posted 11/6/2005 3:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for your ears and shoulders.... I really appreciate them!
NEVER GIVE UP.... GOD WON'T GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE! 
 


Cathy89
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Date Joined May 2004
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   Posted 11/7/2005 3:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone.... just a quick update... We heard from Ron's doctor today and she originally said she was going to put him on Klonopin! I questioned this move because from everything I've heard, Klonopin is for anxiety and Ron's biggest thing right now is feeling depressed constantly and fear of leaving the house. After RE-explaining this to her, she decided to have him try Paxil. We pick up the script tomorrow. He will continue using the Geodon and Provigil.
 
On another note... we've begun the process of filling out an online form for Social Security Disability for Ron. His doctor said she thinks he is MORE than eligible for it... I've heard that most people are turned down the first time they apply and a friend of mine gave me the name of a local lawyer she used when her husband was denied. Hopefully things will start looking up soon.
 
Thanks again for listening. :-)
 
TTFN ~ Cathy


NEVER GIVE UP.... GOD WON'T GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE! 
 

Post Edited (Cathy89) : 11/11/2005 2:37:59 PM (GMT-7)


Cathy89
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Date Joined May 2004
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   Posted 11/25/2005 4:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone,
    I hope your Thanksgiving was good. Just wanted to give you an update on things here. Ron's been on Paxil for 2 weeks now... I don't know how long it takes to have an effect but he says he's feeling better. He SEEMS a little happier and less afraid of things but I think the real test will be if and when he finds a job and how he handles things then. His car broke down last week and it's gonna cost close to $1000 to fix it(hard to put that kind of money into a 1987 Jeep with close to 200,000 miles but still cheaper than buying another vehicle)... he handled it well, I'm the one that had the melt down.... normally it's the other way around  eyes      
 
Thanks for listening.
 
TTFN ~ Cathy
 
 
 
NEVER GIVE UP.... GOD WON'T GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE! 
 


Angeline53
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Date Joined Nov 2005
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   Posted 11/25/2005 9:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Cathy89
I also have Crohns. I want to ask you a few questions, OK?
Because of the stress of all lifes problems, are you taking care of yourself? As a mother and a wife, us women tend to put everyone first.
I am on disablility. It is a hard row to hoe. Your home all the time. Are you prepared to have him home all the time? Also, if you will think about this for a moment. If he gets disabiliy, he may get stuck in the house and not be able to come out. Thats what happened to me. I have a wonderful husband, but because he did the shopping and all the out side responsabilities, I didn't have to go out. Now we both regret that move. I have made great strides to "come out", so to speak. I just want you to know that, if you think some times about leaving him, if he's under foot all the time, and he gets stuck in the house. It will be even a harder life. Somtimes what we think will be an easyer road turns into a much harder road.
Just wanted you to see the other side of things. It's something to think about.
Ill talk to you again if you want

Cathy89
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Date Joined May 2004
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   Posted 11/26/2005 11:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I recognize you from the Crohn's forum... yes, I am taking care of myself. It's been hard putting myself before everyone else for a change but I'm getting better at it. yeah
 
Luckily, my Crohn's is not too severe, it does run thru my entire colon but I haven't needed any surgery for it yet (I was diagnosed 16 years ago this month). I've been getting Remicade infusions every 8 weeks since April 29, 2004 and it's working wonders!
 
I do work (I'm a Paraprofessional... which is a stressful job) so I'm not home 24/7. Ron and I have discussed the Social Security Disability issue and agree that it's a last resort but decided that we should at least start the ball rolling because it takes so long. He would rather work but finding a job hasn't been easy because of his disability. Unfortuantely for him too is the fact that he was never given any responsibility when he was growing up and he always heard "Ronnie, you can't do that" by his parents. He was told that he was dyslexic but nothing else, so his mental health issues were pretty much ignored until his father passed away 13 years ago.
 
I have gone over all the different senerios and keep coming up with one constant: even tho Ron's mental health issues will never go away completely (like my Crohn's), he is getting help. The day he tells me that he doesn't need any more help will be the day I tell him to pack his bags!
 
Amazingly, since starting the Paxil on November 9, he says he's feeling a lot better and he's not afraid to leave the house. Unfortunately, he's got no way of going anywhere right now because his car's in the shop. He does go for walks with our son which is good... I get peace and quiet for a little while and they have time alone together without me butting in..... lol tongue  
 
Thank you for your insight... I always appreciate learning how other people cope.
 
TTFN ~ Cathy
 
 

NEVER GIVE UP.... GOD WON'T GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE! 
 


NeverGetsEasyx
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   Posted 11/26/2005 9:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Glad things are getting better. Sometimes you have to just give life time, and it turns around. Hope everything continues to bring you two happiness.

Cathy89
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Date Joined May 2004
Total Posts : 78
   Posted 2/12/2006 4:45 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Everyone.... Sorry I haven't checked in lately.... been busy working and my son has been using the computer a lot for school stuff.

Anyway, things haven't really changed here much. My husband is still looking for work, unemployment ran out a couple weeks ago and we won't hear about Social Security Disability until March or April. He's still doing well on the Paxil but I still think the real test will be when he goes back to work.

I think I might need to contact my doctor about depression. I've been very irritable lately, crying over the littlest things, snapping at people for stupid reasons.... I could go on and on but I won't.

Well, that's it for now.... time to dig out from the 14"(or more) of snow... the plows just came by so the driveway needs to be cleared.

(((((HUGS))))) to all!

TTFN ~ Cathy


NEVER GIVE UP.... GOD WON'T GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE! 
 

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