My heart really goes out to you. I know that's probably not what you want or need to hear. I'm only 22 and I'm married a military man who is away on training right now. He's not even close to being deployed yet... but I can bawl myself to sleep just thinking about
it... because it will happen eventually. So, in that sense... I can really relate to you.
I'm not suicidal... but I was. I knew exactly how I was going to do it... and when. But then the real me got in the way and called a help line in my area. My mom has type 2 diabetes and is on the pills. I knew that all I would have to do was take a handful of those and my blood sugar would drop enough to kill me. The worse part about
it is... I'm living with her so those pills are right there for whenever I need them.
My therapist tells me that I catastrophize all the time. I only see the negative in situations and I think that only bad things will happen. I'm not sure exactly how you think or feel... but I'm sure you feeling that the worst is going to happen to your boyfriend. I know that's how I would feel.
Maybe I'm not the greatest one to write to you in effort of support. But I mean the best in every word. I'm just trying to let you know that you're not the only one feeling the way you're feeling.
I don't have any serious medical problems... but I do suffer from sciatica right now which can be very painful if I don't watch it. I'm also extremely overweight which doesn't help my selfesteem. I'm in the midst of losing weight which is just an added stress... but my life is in jeopardy if I don't get a hold on things.
I don't know how to give you any advice... I just want you to know that others can and do relate to you. Don't let this depression overcome you. I know you're stronger than that. You have to be to deal as well as you are with everything. You may not feel like you're coping too well at all... but seeking help, coming here and talking about
it... are great coping strageties. I know that is easier said than done... because sometimes feeling sad for youself feels good. I don't know if that makes sense... I just know that's how I feel. I feel when I'm sad and crying... and just down in the dumps and don't want to do anything... it makes me feel better because I'm comforting myself. But in reality... you're not comforting yourself... you're comforting the depression. That's the way I see it anyways.
I know you've probably heard it all before... but this is some advice I was recently given. Try and think hard about
something you used to really enjoy - I know that's hard when you're depressed - and do it. If you used to wear makeup everyday... put a little on (even if it's just mascara). If you used to walk all the time... go for a 5 minute walk. If you used to make bracelets (that's what I used to do)... go out and buy the supplies. You don't need to finish everything you start... just start it. Maybe that won't help for you... it was just some advice given to me and I thought I'd pass it along.
I hope you soon feel better and I pray for a quick and safe return for your boyfriend. There is a light at the end of the tunnel... even if it is just the size of a pinhole at this moment... it is there.