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anythingspossible
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Date Joined Feb 2017
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   Posted 2/6/2017 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone, new here on the forum. Have been feeling depressed for a few years and its not until recently I decided to get actual help. So one day at a time it's getting better and better. And now I'd like to find people going through the same as me, would love to have more people I could talk with about all this, so feel free to reach out to me whoever you might be, would really appreciate it!

smurf smurf smurf

Tim Tam
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   Posted 2/6/2017 11:40 AM (GMT -6)   
I think you are wise to reach out for help. Isolation makes depression worse.

I was isolated in my apartment, depressed, couldn't decide what to do, and finally had a nervous breakdown from not doing anything.

So it sounds like you're getting it together.

Did you say you are getting some help with your depression?

I think what also might help is perhaps doing some volunteer work which will get you around people and doing useful things.

getting by
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   Posted 2/6/2017 11:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the depression forum. You have come to the right place to find others going through the same as you.

Keep posting, it helps.

Hugs, Karen...
Moderator-Depression


fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 2/6/2017 5:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the forum.

Rules are in the top right corner.

There is a thread at the top for RESOURCES. 4 -5 pages of great info on depression including helpful sites and books.

Coping skills are big here, some of us find they are as important as medication and therapy.

Glad you are here, look forward to getting to know you.

Peace
Trina
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F27
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   Posted 2/6/2017 5:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Howdy AIP, happy you joined us, but sucks that you had to. ;-) I've been dealing with depression for years, but I'm happy to say that I've had it under control for quite a while now. Drugs and a smiling psychologist keep me on an even keel, although the smiling psychologist is a relatively new add.

I don't hang out here much during December through March - work is way too busy. That said I'm always looking for someone to share tales from the depression trenches with. Hell, I can talk about antidepressants with the best of 'em, and remind me to tell what my shrink said when I told her what I really thought of one the books she recommended for me.

Hope your day was fun. TTYL.

anythingspossible
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   Posted 2/10/2017 12:23 PM (GMT -6)   
First of all, thank you guys for your warm welcome, wasn't expecting that much respons!

Hi Tim Tam and thanks for reaching out! I am getting some help, I've been seeing a therapist for about 6 months doing EMDR, I'm also a part of an online therapy program with the same therapist and I go and get something called rosen method (which I highly recommend!!) once every other week. Other then that I try and eat healthy, make sure I get enough omega 3, sun exposure and excersice. Lately I've also started to really reaaaallyy being aware of my thoughts to make sure I don't get stuck in negative thinking.

So I'm doing pretty much everything "right", it's just that I feel extremely alone. When the depression was the worst I isolated myself so I've pretty much lost almost all my friends. And I've also lived overseas a third of my life and I've just come back to my home country where I now live with my parents and I barely know anyone here anymore. I don't work so I'm basically just stuck at home all the time and don't really go out and meet people. I would like to make new friends obviously but I feel so ashamed with my current situation which stops me from reaching out to people. So that's why I came here, cause I really want to talk to someone going through the same as me, cause it's hard with people who have never been depressed, they just don't get it. I think if you've never experinced it, it's impossible to understand what it's like.


Tim Tam said...
I think you are wise to reach out for help. Isolation makes depression worse.

I was isolated in my apartment, depressed, couldn't decide what to do, and finally had a nervous breakdown from not doing anything.

So it sounds like you're getting it together.

Did you say you are getting some help with your depression?

I think what also might help is perhaps doing some volunteer work which will get you around people and doing useful things.


Thank you! <3

getting by said...
Hi there,

Welcome to the depression forum. You have come to the right place to find others going through the same as you.

Keep posting, it helps.

Hugs, Karen...



Thank you Trina, I'll check it out! Looking forward to getting to know you too! smile

BnotAfraid said...
Welcome to the forum.

Rules are in the top right corner.

There is a thread at the top for RESOURCES. 4 -5 pages of great info on depression including helpful sites and books.

Coping skills are big here, some of us find they are as important as medication and therapy.

Glad you are here, look forward to getting to know you.

Peace
Trina


smilewinkgrin

F27 said...
Howdy AIP, happy you joined us, but sucks that you had to. ;-) I've been dealing with depression for years, but I'm happy to say that I've had it under control for quite a while now. Drugs and a smiling psychologist keep me on an even keel, although the smiling psychologist is a relatively new add.

I don't hang out here much during December through March - work is way too busy. That said I'm always looking for someone to share tales from the depression trenches with. Hell, I can talk about antidepressants with the best of 'em, and remind me to tell what my shrink said when I told her what I really thought of one the books she recommended for me.

Hope your day was fun. TTYL.

Tim Tam
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   Posted 2/10/2017 3:54 PM (GMT -6)   
anythingispossible:

Again, I think you're doing the right thing.

I have trouble reaching out, also, and getting out.

As the song from years ago said,

"Only the lonely know how I feel tonight
Only the lonely, know this feeling ain't right.
Maybe tomorrow....a new romance....
No more sorrow....but that's the chance...
You gotta take, when your lonely hearts breaks,
only the lonely."

YouTube will have the words and the tune.

See, I'm trying to cheer you up right there

I was once cooped up in my house for six years. I had a physical ailment which made it impossible to ride in a car.

I had a physical ailment which made it difficult for me to walk around the block. I remember trying to walk in my back driveway, and something stopped me from that, and I almost lost it.

Then I would try to walk through my house, trying to get exercise.

So, I've been there. Still go thorough some of that. Just got back from a walk around the block with my dog. She really is a big help in getting me out. I probably wouldn't walk around the block by myself.

And, when I walk around the block, I sometimes see someone and we sometimes talk. I meet some people, pick up some trash, put limbs from the median in a stack. All kind of things open up just from walking around the block.

You said, "Lately I've also started to really reaaaallyy being aware of my thoughts to make sure I don't get stuck in negative thinking."

I agree with that 250%. I didn't know it, but I was in the back of mind, negative, from my growing up household, and from my manic-depression. Then I read a column on the importance of being positive going into a column that you can solve it.

Whoa! New revelation. I liked it, too, because I only had to be positive when I was trying to solve a problem. I could be positive for 5 minutes, but I couldn't be positive all day long.

So, anyway, it really helped me. I think you're smart for "make sure I don't get stuck in negative thinking"

Thanks for letting us know that you're getting some help from a therapist for six months and doing EMDR, which I don't know what that means. I don't know what Rosen method is, either.

Depression, does it run in your family? Were there events? Have you ever taken an anti-depressant?

You mention alone. In my initial response, I mentioned volunteer work, because I think that's a good way to get out, even when you don't feel so hot. Putting you around people is therapy, as it helping others. Your troubles could reduce when you see others having difficulties.

You say, " I would like to make new friends obviously but I feel so ashamed with my current situation which stops me from reaching out to people"

I know what you're talking about, ashamed of mental illness. When my mental illnesses began to appear, I was ashamed to be around my former friends. They were all healthy and everything and I was all depressed.

When I got undepressed in a new job, say, I could do OK with certain ones who didn't know me from when I was depressed.

And you're right, you feel more comfortable around follow sickies. And these people here are...really.....sick!!! It's a joke!

Anyway, if sick is what you seek, you've found the right place and the right people. We qualify. You'll find no people better at being sick than we are. And that's even when we take our medicine. Off med, different story.

Pretty Little Liar
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Date Joined Apr 2017
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   Posted 5/16/2017 12:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi. That is so nice to hear.

I was depressed too. Mainly the reason of my depression was isolation and not feeling good enough. What I think made me even more depressive was the fact that I overthink a lot and I always thought myself as a bad person, I still do but deep down inside I know I'm not a bad person and this is what keeps me going.

I hope you stay happy and safe.

If you ever want to talk. I'm here.
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