Post Edited (bevhea) : 12/16/2005 4:36:39 PM (GMT-7)
Chronic pain can cause depression. Effexor has really helped my husbands depression, and I am on it too, waiting for Cymbalta to be approved in Canada. It does affect your sex life tho too. Most AD's do. What is more important to your wife, that you have lots of sex, or that you get your depression under control? There are many different ways and things you can do to help satisfy her. She needs to be a little more understanding about what is going on here. If the shoe was on the other foot, I am sure she would expect some understanding on your part. Marriage is about a whole lot more than sex.
Go to your dr and see if he/she can't come up with something that will work better for you.
you also mentioned your willing to try almost anything. Have you given God a try? He know what you are going thru and is there to help you thru this difficult time.