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CassandraLee
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   Posted 2/20/2017 7:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi. I am meeting with my therapist early tomorrow morning. I have not worked towards something that we have been discussing for awhile now. Additionally, there are several other somethings that I know should be important but I have absolutely no feelings for or motivation for doing. I just know that I am not happy, am afraid of what's to come yet cannot muster myself to act proactively. I know this is vague. I am just wondering if anyone else has had this happen and how you handled it.

Thanks ahead. Cass

older guy
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   Posted 2/21/2017 8:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cass,

Yes I have been there. I went through a bad depression when I was unemployed. I think some of the things i thought were important to do were not really life-threatening and I finally got around to doing them.

What worked for me was giving myself lots of space mentally. And sometimes forcing myself to at least start on some task I felt was important. Once I started it became easier. I had to tell myself to just start.

Best of luck to you and I hope your appointment with your therapist is helpful.
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 2/21/2017 8:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cass,

The wonderful thing about therapy is the break through.

Today you reached out for answers Good. Discuss it. You are not completely blowing off what you know will help you.

What I THINK you are doing is.

Using old survival skills for familiar emotions. DREAD, WORRY, FAILURE, HURT,PAIN ETC.

All of these most likely are in at least, your subconscious mind when you contemplate doing the hard work of therapy.

I won't lie to you. The Work is hard. It brings up painful crap, THEN as you continue to press forward, you realize the pain is dissipating.

That pain held down so deep for so long needs to be freed, so you can heal and the TRUTH will carry you the rest of the way.

1st step is the hardest. Breaking old habits is hard.

Giving yourself the kindness and compassion you deserve easier than you would think.

Peace and strength
Trina
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CassandraLee
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   Posted 2/21/2017 12:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Older Guy and BNotAfraid. I have been in therapy for over twenty years now. I really bared my soul this morning because I feel so awful. We talked about it and she also increased one of my meds, my Trazodone by 100 mg. That surprised me and I'm hoping that will help. If it does maybe I can start doing one thing a night, or just start something like Older Guy said. Currently, I have been hiding out in bed. Thanks for listening and responding. Cass

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 2/22/2017 3:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Job well done Cass! purging in therapy is one of the hardest things to achieve in our healing journey.

If the increase does not work discuss alternative.

Trazodone does not for me except give me jitters.

Just staying that there are other med options and be aware now you are feeling

Peace
Trina
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Billy Collins from the poem. HIGH

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   Posted 2/23/2017 4:04 AM (GMT -6)   
continued healing thoughts i send ya.
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   Posted 2/23/2017 5:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cass, sorry I am late to this thread. I think we all work at our own pace, don't get down on yourself. You will do things when you are ready.

Hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 2/23/2017 8:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Hallo Cass,
We have never spoken nor have we ever met
I see you have been having a hard time so
sorry to hear that,hiding out in bed is not a
A good place for any of us you seen your therapist
And was given 100mg more of a medication
they feel is going to help and you should share in there thinking
I'm certainly no expert but if I was a betting person my money
is on you ,doing much better
Cass, good luck and be kind to yourself.

454545
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   Posted 4/28/2017 6:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cass,

I have been depressed and fearful of dealing with people for about six months now. Although I have had socialization issues my whole life(feeling vulnerable and isolating myself from people so never had many close friends) recently because of being harassed at my former job I lost all confidence and went into a deep depression. So I can empathize with you.

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 4/28/2017 7:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the forum.

Many people here and else where have this trouble.

You are not alone, we are here to listen and support the best we can.

Peace
Trina
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"...when the gift of sight is cause enough for jubilation."
Billy Collins from the poem. HIGH

DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain;Hemicrania Continua; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 4/30/2017 2:54 AM (GMT -6)   
hru cass.
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