THis sounds like my first marriage. I was 9 months pregnant and he had a gig an hour away. I told him when he left that I had the bar's phone number and would call if I needed him. He said he couldn't leave in the middle of a gig. Not even to watch his baby be born. I put up with his self centerednedss for 16years. Then he finally divorced me because I was to demanding of him in terms of being a father. Now he is married to the girl singer who had her tubes tied at age 30 because she never wanted any kids. They are a perfect match.
I stressed out sooooo much when my first baby was born. He NEVER changed a diaper at all. When the baby started on solid food, I had to feed him away from the table because watching him spit his food out made the Bum nausiated.
I did have another child with him, but I knew by now, that I would be raising it myself.
Sounds like you married a jerk honey. I know I did.