Hi I just posted this reply to someone in another thread but wanted to make my own as I am also wanting advice. How can I let him know I'm there if he keeps blocking me. I don't want replies telling me he probably doesn't want to be with me anymore as I know the process of depression.
I'm going through something similar and have done a few times with different men but have never found the answer to what we should do in this situation.
My last 2 relationships ended because of depression and I spent months trying to save them until I felt I was fighting a losing battle. I have learnt to try and separate the depression from the person and try not to take it personally but its so hard. Everything seems like a dilemma of wanting them to know your there and not wanting to push them further away.
I met my boyfriend 2 months ago and we fell in love straight away. He told me he had been diagnosed with depression and was on anti depressants and I accepted that. We moved in together and things were great. A couple of weeks ago he told me he had not taken his anti depressants for the last month. This worried me but didn't want to push it. One night after trying to give up smoking and being tired I got a little moody and I sensed that he didn't care which to me seemed out of character. I tried to tell him how I felt and make up with him but he just started throwing insults at me telling me I wasn't acting normal. He kept saying I had flipped which confused me as I hadn't, just got a little upset. We eventually made up and went to sleep. In the middle of the night I felt him turn over and wrap his arms around me and pull me closer. I kissed him goodbye in the morning and left for work as normal. He text me later that morning asking how I was. I said ok but still worried about
last night. He said forget about
it don't worry. I did still worry but went on to talk about
what we were having for dinner and he agreed. Later that day he text saying to tell him when I was finished work. I text him to say I was on my last job and he text back saying that last night frightened him and that he had moved back to his old place. He said he didn't want to split up. I tried talking to him but he started to ignore me. I spotted that this was depression as I've been in this situation before so I just tried letting him know I was still there but he then blocked me on WhatsApp. We are still friends on Facebook and I post things occasionally so he can still see I'm still here for him. The other night I saw he had unblocked me on WhatsApp but hadn't sent a message. I sent one that simply said Hello. x. He viewed the message but did not reply. That was 2 days ago so I sent him a message this morning which said you may not want to talk to me or may not know what to say but I cant stop thinking about
you and it would be good to know how you are. x. He blocked me again. This upset me at first but then I realised that this is the depression. The fact he unblocked me before shows that he thinks about
me and misses me.
I have lost 2 relationships to depression and I sure as hell am not going to let it win again. I don't have all the answers but I am learning. No one can say how this will pan out for you or me. Yes you have to be prepared for the possibility that it may not turn out the way you want but if its really what you want then you have to have hope.
Sorry for the long reply but I hope it helped. It helps to know I'm not the only one going through this.
Post Edited (Bella1979) : 5/22/2017 4:28:08 AM (GMT-6)