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   Posted 7/23/2017 9:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Jeanneac, I listen to music all the time. Thank you for your kind words. I spend a lot of time with myself now and I have come to like it. I do try to go out once a week for a couple of hours with some friends. One lady has fibromyalgia too and understands what I go through because she does too.

So I guess it worked out for me for the best in a lot of ways, though it was hard in the beginning. And for a long time, as I have been down with this for over 15 years. But I think we learn to cope with things that aren't so much fun.

I hope you have a lovely day today. Thanks again for the kind words. That made me feel really good.

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   Posted 7/23/2017 3:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Lynnwood,, I empathize with you and as with of us we know that this is part of learning to deal with our diagnosis. You are not alone. Let your feelings come honor them, let them go.

Marqi welcome !

HT, so glad to hear the the ECT is working for Mum. Less stress for you. Try to keep yourself first.

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   Posted 7/23/2017 6:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello All.

Jamie, I am glad that your mom is starting to feel a little bit better. How many more treatments is she scheduled for? Has she had any noticeable short term memory loss? I'm proud of you for the way you have been there and handled both your mom and brothers medical issues. Is he doing any better?

Lynnwood: LOL, I didn't mean to insult you by offering the idea of having you order your food online from the supermarket. I just know how I feel when I don't want to move or do anything and was looking for a quick fix for you. I'm so glad that you want to get up and do that on your own! smilewinkgrin

Karen: I like the way that you can feel comfortable with yourself and being alone (when not with your husband.) I have made a lot of steps in that direction too. But sometimes I still get really lonely and wish I had a significant other. But that also makes me wonder if that would be fair to the future possibly him because of my depression and anxiety issues. What about the rest of you? My first marriage ended horribly but for many reasons. How were you able to find your significant other?

Myself, my mouth starts watering every time you talk about what you are harvesting in your garden. Maybe next summer I can start a small container garden of my own.

As for me, I have a lot going on right now. My child support ended last week and my daughter is going into her senior year of high school. I asked my ex-husband if he could give me two or three months of an extension as I just opened my own part time business (in addition to my full time job) and I need time to get it up and going to get a salary from it. That idea did not go over well at all with him. I'm just concerned about having enough rent money for the condo I have been renting, so my daughter can get thru her last year of high school. With that said, I ran into my divorce lawyer this weekend at McDonald's. I haven't seen her in over 8 years. She called out to me to see how I was doing and we chatted about the above for a moment. She said to give her a call next week. I just have one question and she said she would answer it. I couldn't believe the karma behind that one.

Well, that's it for now. Have a good night everyone! Cass

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   Posted 7/23/2017 9:27 PM (GMT -6)   
i am sending heaps of healing thoughts to you all.

kellyinCali
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   Posted 7/23/2017 11:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone. I have been going through the stay in bed, hide from the world, I'll face that tomorrow (broken record). When I do get up, I have tears in my eyes. I don't sob, just feel sad and lost. My dog is 16 1/2. He has Dementia now. I am on disability and barely scrape by. I moved an hour and half away to the High Desert in California. I feel like a stranger in a strange land. I have no friends. My sleep schedule is completely upside down and my arms and legs feel like lead weights. the smallest piles of "stuff" feel overwhelming to me, yet I know tackling them would make me feel better. I am scared of growing old in this world. It's a mess. I am a sensitive introvert. I'm not a young bar hopper and my life doesn't (can't) revolved around children and grand children. I can't imagine a "happy" future. I want to but it seems sooooooo far away. How will I build it? When will I be well? When will all the set backs stop? Is this life worth living? I feel so sad.

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   Posted 7/24/2017 12:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Kelly,

Life is so worth living. I am sorry for what you are going through. Just keep hanging on. I am sorry your dog has dementia now. They are so comforting to us when they are feeling well. I am worrying about my dog as her back legs don't seem real stable. I don't know what is up with that. I am afraid they will stop working, but for now she is fine. So why do I worry???

I hope things get better and that your days get better and brighter...

Hey Jamie... Thanks for the kind thoughts...

Cass, thank you for the kind words. I think it is easier for me to be alone because I am doing it by choice. Not because I have to. If I didn't have my husband I would probably be a wreck. So I think that makes a lot of difference.

Trina, I hope that the world is treating you well and that you have a good day...

Hugs to all...

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   Posted 7/24/2017 12:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for the encouragement Karen but I just don't "feel" like "life is so worth living." That is depression for you. I have to pick my dog up now because of his back legs. It's a normal part of aging. Dogs deal with these changes better than humans do though. They just immediately seem to either "slow down to heal" or "accept and adjust" to their limitations.

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   Posted 7/24/2017 2:42 AM (GMT -6)   
we can learn much from animals. i do mindful walking and when so in this i see the art of the humanity of animals. it is the small little things that we can learn from, which would better our lives of humans and instil a happier humanity of all....and animals. i send peace to you, and may your life prosper with renewed vigour....

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   Posted 7/24/2017 7:15 AM (GMT -6)   
CAssie--I am glad to hear some hope behind there... let us know what the lawyer says. We see a lawyer Friday to start Mom's estate. There is absolutely no issues with it. Luckily, my family does not do dissent very well. Even when my parents divorced, Dad paid child support and alimony until he died. I hope hubbie can be made to see reason. This is his child who will be impacted. I do get happiness from my garden--and it gets me outside at least an hour a day.

Kelly--this is the same as humans. When our animals get old, they sometimes need special care. One of my cats was diabetic for the last five years of her life--and the other died at 18 and half--the last three years she went down slowly. I figured out how to aid her. I put a pillow in each room for her to lie on. I raised the food. I made little ramps for her to climb to the couch and bed. When she could no longer climb into the litterbox--puppy pads and newspaper.

As far as your situation--and I mean this in a nice and ruminating kind of way--I sometimes feel as being depressed is really about enabling ourselves to do nothing. It's just easier to do stay where we are emotionally and mentally than to make small steps towards change. Instead of letting yourself become more depressed because life is bad--what can you proactively do to make changes? The actions do not have to be big. Enough small things move us to change. Commit to walking for 15 minutes every day. Find a book club or some other meeting to join. https://www.meetup.com/ is great for that. Go to the local McDonalds and join the coffee klatch. If these are too big--move smaller. Make a cleaning plan, a little a day. Limit TV watching to things you like not just random things that are on. Read. Plan. IS there something you have always wanted to learn? Now is the time.

A few years ago, when I was subbing for a history teacher, his class did an assignment. Pick a place you have always wanted to go. Plan a two week vacation-money is no object. Plan flights, hotels, places to visit and to eat. I had the best time!!. I went to Istanbul in my mind. I had the best time picking restaurants and places to visit.

Teaching and tutoring today. Garden watering. Hopefully starting to make steps towards a new computer!! This one has a completely full memory and it is causing real issues. I do so many different jobs online and use so many different apps, my poor little blue computer cannot keep up.

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   Posted 7/24/2017 9:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Myself,

I hate when computers get old. But they are so nice when they are new. I assume it is time to upgrade for you. Especially when you use a computer as much as you do. Gotta have them now adays...

I hope you are having an awesome day. We got a little rain yesterday. It is nice and cool, but sunny, today.

Kelly, Take lessons from the animals. They slow things down to their needs. They are "in the now". Mindful... Learn some mindfulness. It helps you not to think so much about the situation you are in or worrying about the past or future. One day at a time... Meditation...

Turtle, I hope you are getting a good sleep now. You always have words of wisdom...

Hugs to all...

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   Posted 7/24/2017 12:43 PM (GMT -6)   
My recent magazine issue reminded me that I should dead head the dahlias so they will continue to bloom. I gingerly made my way through the flower bed to do just that and discovered one of the rain lily bulbs that I planted is up! No sign of a flower bud yet, but it is up! I'm so excited!

The rest of the flower garden continues to do well. I'm beginning to think the mimosa branches that were so badly affected may have been because I resealed my roof. Perhaps the fumes from the product? The rest of the tree is lush! Guess next year will tell me more.

The hummingbird is enjoying the honeysuckle which is blooming profusely, perhaps because they pulled out the rest of it from the neighbors yard and now all of the energy is going into more flowers. I see him at different times each day. At least, I think it's the same bird each time!

The day lilies are winding down but the mums are gearing up! The flower feast continues!
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   Posted 7/24/2017 10:36 PM (GMT -6)   
sun is out, so the turtle been walkies with head phones on playing his stick and giving the girls in the chemist a good laugh. thx karen. hi everyone. many trains in my dreams, many trains. i do like em. not much happening....giving my skin tags a hit of iodine....apparently they don't like it and they drop off. got heaps coming up. the tour is done, well done mathews on green, and well done on sun..as a new team, did well. yes froome is good, he won, but without his mates doing all the work...keep well.

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   Posted 7/25/2017 2:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Pitmom,

Hi Jamie,

I hope you are both feeling well. Thanks for sharing about your flowers Pitmom, I can imagine them when you talk about them. It takes me away.

Jamie I hope you have a good night.

Take care both of you. Take care all...

Hugs, Karen...
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pitmom
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   Posted 7/26/2017 6:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Garden report is as follows...

I've enjoyed the first of the cherry tomatoes! Still no sign of any cucumbers though. The 'regular' tomatoes are coming along nicely. The pineapple sage is HUGE!

The Rose of Sharon is blooming, as are the hardy hibiscus with their plate sized flowers. I discovered a lily plant that I had totally forgotten planting! I found the package which says it should bloom 'late summer'. The crocosmia that I started in the spring has offered up 2 flower stems so far. The buds should open any day now. They will be a nice crimson compliment to the cypress vine climbing the front arch.

The house project report is as follows...

I scored a wonderful bunch of baskets and bins at one of the local home decor stores yesterday. I'm trying to go 'French Country' and found sea grass and willow baskets with gray tones, steel wire baskets with gray linen liners and a white sectioned box that says 'odds and ends' in gray paint. I took everything off of the shelves, sorting what stays and what should be elsewhere, and the result is quite pleasing. I'll have to go shopping again to do the other set of shelves, but this is a good start in the right direction.

Seeing things organized will go a long way in reducing my anxiety and 'end of summer blues'. I cannot imagine being 'stuck' in the house in the colder temps with so much chaos surrounding me. I have started leaving the dogs out of their crates when I'm not home with the objective of storing their crates and using gates to contain them in one part of the house if need be, rather than having their crates dominate the living room!

Today, my grandson will help me pick up the material I've decided to use to recover the metal steps at the back door so the dogs won't get their nails caught in the grating again. The strand board has deteriorated to the point of dangerous, so this time I'll be using tile backer board. Portland cement and asphalt with mesh embedded should be able to hold up to the traffic and the weather.

Hope everyone is enjoying a 'bright' day.
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   Posted 7/26/2017 6:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Raining here but we need it at this time. Not so hot today which is nice.

Pitmom, again, I love reading your posts about your garden and flowers. Thanks for sharing.

Jamie, I hope you are sleeping well tonight.

Hugs to all!!!

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kellyinCali
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   Posted 7/27/2017 1:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Turtle and Karen and Pitmom for the encouragement and advice. I'm sorry I haven't been more current with everyone's posts. I'll try harder on the next check in thread as I do like to hear from ALL of you.

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   Posted 7/27/2017 2:48 AM (GMT -6)   
hi, everyone...brrrrr. cold turtle. keep strong. really off the wall dreams of late. even pink floyd would be spun out by em!!

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   Posted 7/27/2017 4:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Kelly,

Hi Jamie,

Kelly just post when you can. It is very much appreciated... We love to hear from you...

Jamie, Pink Floyd would flip out over your dreams eh? I can imagine how weird they must be. I hope that they settle.

Take care all. Have an awesome day!!!

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   Posted 7/28/2017 4:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Rain, rain, busy day.

Went to garden and picked ripe veggies before the rain got started. We have flood warnings for the next two days. I taught. Then I met with lawyer about Mom's estate. Then home to read truly dreadful student writing. I lost another crown last night-grrrr. Time to put everything down and watch the news and a movie.

Boy--I hate student writing that is navel-gazing and poorly considered. Grammar, punctuation--that stuff is fine--I can explain those things. But if a student cannot think, or cannot clearly express an idea about the world, I get cranky and then I get sarcastic in my comments. Luckily, I crossed out the "verbal diarrhea" comment. Can I get a gold star?
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   Posted 7/28/2017 8:12 PM (GMT -6)   
cold and windy. got a surprise, sis got me a new washing machine. been a few yrs without one. been for a blown away walk. oh, my youngest bro has got his guardian now, thus things will move along and hopefully he will be removed from the putrid dwelling. other bro in srs got access to his savings we were keeping aside for him for rainy days and went on a massive spending bender. oh well. mum is okay, and improving slowly. keep well.

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   Posted 7/29/2017 3:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Myself, you can have a gold star and a partial one to start on next weeks. Ha!!! I am glad you have a sense of humor. It carries a lot of us through.

Jamie, good on you for the washer. I am glad you got a new one. You will be in clean clothes heaven!!!

I hope you both have a good day/night.

Take care all...

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   Posted 7/29/2017 7:33 AM (GMT -6)   
I call bad papers pop-tart papers, because they were created over breakfast (in a hurry, last-minute.) I want to shake the writer, and say, "All the education I have and the reading and writing I have done, and you think bad writing is somehow going to escape me?" Like I said--If a student is trying to express something but doesn't have the technical writing skills to do it, I am delighted to lend a hand. But how can you make someone think who is determined to avoid it?
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   Posted 7/29/2017 11:00 AM (GMT -6)   
You will find your share of students like that. Maybe only taking the class to hopefully get a passing grade. Meaning they aren't really interested in the subject. Which is sad in itself...

But I think the good students who really want to learn will make up for it. A lot of gratification for both of you.

Hang in there Myself... Have an awesome day!!!

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   Posted 7/29/2017 7:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone. I'm a little lonely and bored at the moment. I was just over on another post where I had commented awhile back. I guess this is the hangout place.

I'm loving reading about those of you who have gardens. It's been quite awhile since I've been able to have one. Fresh grown tomatoes are my favorite! My Daughter just came for a visit last week, and brought me some from her garden. I actually live in a place where I could have a big garden if I could be home more. Our job requires my husband and I to be away most of the time. Sometimes I wonder why we even bought another home after selling our last one of 22 years.

My day was ok with no meds. I still have some Xanax, clonazepam, and ambien, but I am trying my best to not take anything. I have been home from work for a month now, trying to kick this depression and anxiety. It's very lonely, as we are in a new place with no friends or family. I have to stay alone when I take off work. Everything about this place is depressing to me. But I have been working on mindfulness all day which seems to be helping some. Thanks for the advice on the other post Karen. Actually there is a lot of good advice from all of you here.

I hope all is well with everyone..
Marqi

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   Posted 7/30/2017 2:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Marqi,

I am glad you posted on the daily thread. I think it helps to get things out and get comments from others and their opinions or experience.

I hope you are able to make new friends where you are. I am sure in time you will...

I think it is great you can hold off on taking meds. I stopped Xanax and ambien too myself a couple of years ago. I still have some of both stashed in case I need. I take one maybe once a month, if that.

I didn't have much trouble going off the meds which surprised me. Maybe it is because I know I have them if I need, I don't know.

I hope you have an awesome day today. Take care and post when you can.

Hugs, Karen...
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