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emotions
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   Posted 8/17/2017 6:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Feeling so depressed, gone through cycles many times and at a very low point again.Done the therapy and psychiatrists route many times and so tired of it. Have major anxiety, waking early, hands shaking, tight in pit of solar plexus that won't go away, can't concentrate, self loathing and loosing my mind. So hard to do life. thank goodness I work part time and my husband is the bread winner for now. hard to do anything. Lots of external stress at home with adult son, elderly mother, and Lyme disease. Just need to feel a little connection to those who know what this emotional pain feels like. Thank you.

getting by
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   Posted 8/17/2017 6:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Battling life can be difficult. There are so many ups and downs. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now, but I think that the part time job can give you a break from the things at home. I hope so anyway. When I was working, it was nice to get away from things.

Sounds like you have a good husband. That means the world. I hope that things get better for you. Keep taking things one day at a time.

I wanted to add, it sounds like you have very high anxiety. I do breathing exercises and it helps so much with high anxiety. I will share if you are interested. It is free, it is something we can do to help ourselves.

Hugs, Karen...
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Post Edited (getting by) : 8/17/2017 6:55:24 AM (GMT-6)


pitmom
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   Posted 8/17/2017 8:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Have you had a complete physical lately?
multiple surgeries for rotator cuff both shoulders with residual chronic impingement syndrome, ulnar nerve transposition, carpal tunnel release, wrist ganglionectomies/denervectomies/tenolysis, multiple herniated discs, tarlov cyst, whiplash, bursitis of hips, tendonitis, torus, 3rd degree shoulder separation, torn labrum, ovarian cysts, fibroid tumors of the uterus

emotions
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   Posted 8/17/2017 9:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Yes, I see a doctor for lyme desease and related coninfections with she says it can also cause brain inflammation. Having a very hard time coping with life. How do you do it? I have a lot of free time and work a little from home. I have no enjoyment or motivation to do anything unless someone calls me and then I don't feel like being around anything body because I don't feel like I am good company.

emotions
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   Posted 8/17/2017 11:02 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen,
Thank you for your reply. Yes, my husband is supportive but doesn't understand that I can't just not think the way I do lately. My work is dwindling and out of my home so not that much help I'm sorry to say. I think that is one of the problems I am a coach and was able to do it fairly well...now can't with anxiety and depression. I do guided imagery, and breathing, and shaking my body to release the anxiety but my mind just keeps looping about disasters in the future which intellectually know that if it's not in front of me I don't need to worry. I'm hoping I will be able to see the brighter side of things and putting up an imaginary stop sign, and mantra let go...let go...
1992-Pos.Western Blot
1996-Active mono
2004-Hash. thyroiditis
2012-Positive Lyme Dot-blot,pos EBV,CMV,Mycloplasma Pneum.
2014-Active EBV, pos CMV, pos Myco,Lyme-Elissa, Anaplasma,
Bartonella-FISH
2016-Pos chronic EBV,Pos. Bartinella FISH
Currently fatigue, sweats, H/A, dizziness, anxiety, memory loss/brain fog but plugging along. Taking herbs

getting by
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   Posted 8/17/2017 11:13 AM (GMT -6)   
When I get anxiety bad, I do the breathing. In through the nose, out through the mouth with pursed lips. It is called smelling the roses and blowing out the candles. It really does bring the anxiety levels down. You continue it until you start to relax. And longer if needed. I have practiced it for many years, so it naturally happens for me. I hope that it helps you too.

I am sorry you can't coach anymore. That must make you sad. Is there something less stressful you could do for enjoyment for yourself?

Keep up all the good work. Keep practicing, it does work and gives you some control.

Hang in there,

Hugs, Karen...
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

pitmom
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   Posted 8/17/2017 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
You asked "How do you do it?", so I will answer as tactfully as I can.

I have a history of alcoholism. One of the founders of A.A. also suffered from paralyzing depression. The other founder was a steady church goer, but didn't quite grasp how to have a personal relationship with the Higher Power he most identified with.

The principles that helped me get and help me stay sober have been very helpful with the other areas and malady I suffer from. In fact, the literature says that they believed their 'way of living' could have benefits for all.

In a nutshell it boils down to "Trust God (whatever your conception of a Higher Power is), clean house (emotionally or literally), help others." In practice I've found that the meetings (and the universe) run just fine without me although my input is usually beneficial, emotional housecleaning is just as important as actual housecleaning, reducing clutter and chaos, doing away with things that don't serve my present life well, and looking outside of myself and my problems, realizing that there is always someone else worse off than me, keeping an attitude of gratitude for what I have.

I listen to uplifting music, I garden in the warm months and indoor garden in the cold months, I feed the birds through the winter, I offer a smile to everyone and hold doors for people, I listen when people need to 'vent' and only offer advice if asked (usually).

When my son was in Iraq, I mentally planned for the worst case scenario, his funeral. Some would say it was morbid but, I found it cathartic. Once I did it I felt prepared, at least in the action. I did the same when my daughter had surgery to remove a tumor on her pituitary gland. The 'what if's' have lost their power over me. My life experience has shown me that...people die, people divorce, children grow up and make their own decisions, pets cross the rainbow bridge, jobs come and go, and the earth keeps turning. I am NOT that powerful.

I hope you find something useful in all of this. Feel free to e-mail me for further discussion as the rules urge us not to discuss certain topics in the forum setting.
multiple surgeries for rotator cuff both shoulders with residual chronic impingement syndrome, ulnar nerve transposition, carpal tunnel release, wrist ganglionectomies/denervectomies/tenolysis, multiple herniated discs, tarlov cyst, whiplash, bursitis of hips, tendonitis, torus, 3rd degree shoulder separation, torn labrum, ovarian cysts, fibroid tumors of the uterus

emotions
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   Posted 8/18/2017 11:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Dear Pitmom,
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement. They are useful and such a good reminder. I know I am very small in the big picture of things. I know I need to trust that this is all happening for a reason. One I'm not aware of yet. And to look at my life and all the struggle. I Do believe in Spirit/God/Universe/Source and feel I lost my connection lately. I have to Trust and Believe in that which is much bigger than little old me. But I am so filled with fear. Fear of little stupid things and big things. Fear mostly now of how I will get through and function in life and survive and try to maintain myself and my life . Today I had someone call for a session who has cancer and devastated and she got my name from a friend who came here and it was helpful. Sometimes I can't believe I am the same person. It's like a switch goes off. I will do my best to trust that I will see her next week and offer what I can out of love since love is the opposite of fear. I reached out to this forum because it's really hard to explain how depression and anxiety feels. I am in major depression and don't like to label so much but it feels so painful My husband is getting frustrated but that is ok. Your response to me means a lot. Thanks again.
1992-Pos.Western Blot
1996-Active mono
2004-Hash. thyroiditis
2012-Positive Lyme Dot-blot,pos EBV,CMV,Mycloplasma Pneum.
2014-Active EBV, pos CMV, pos Myco,Lyme-Elissa, Anaplasma,
Bartonella-FISH
2016-Pos chronic EBV,Pos. Bartinella FISH
Currently fatigue, sweats, H/A, dizziness, anxiety, memory loss/brain fog but plugging along. Taking herbs

emotions
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Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 152
   Posted 8/18/2017 1:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Karen,
Thank you the breathing exercises do help.I am forcing myself to see a few this week and I think it will be helpful to try to help another. I do appreciate your responses.
Big Hug
1992-Pos.Western Blot
1996-Active mono
2004-Hash. thyroiditis
2012-Positive Lyme Dot-blot,pos EBV,CMV,Mycloplasma Pneum.
2014-Active EBV, pos CMV, pos Myco,Lyme-Elissa, Anaplasma,
Bartonella-FISH
2016-Pos chronic EBV,Pos. Bartinella FISH
Currently fatigue, sweats, H/A, dizziness, anxiety, memory loss/brain fog but plugging along. Taking herbs

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 8/18/2017 9:30 PM (GMT -6)   
many healing thoughts i send. HT.

getting by
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   Posted 8/19/2017 10:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I am glad that the exercises help. Anything that can help anxiety is good. I hate anxiety. I get it every time I decide to go somewhere anymore, but it goes away once I go.

Hang in there. Hope you are having a good day.

Hi HT...

Hugs, Karen...
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/19/2017 10:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi emotions

I have just learned a new coping skill.

I also use various breathing techniques depending on whether I'm having anxiety attack or I need to distract myself for instance I use Square breathing to distract if it's a panic attack I use blow out the candle.

However I have just learned a new technique for panic attacks since I have been having very strong ones.

With your right hand thumb or finger close yout right nostril. Then close your eyes and slowly breathe in through the left nostril and out through your mouth.

After about three breath try to focus on relaxing your face muscles, continue the slow breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth on the left side and by the 7th or 10th breath you will notice the panic attack is gone.

This works however when you were going through things the panic attacks will still come back it's not a fix it is a skill and you will have to use it as a skill to get through the rough times.

I hope this helps you

Peace Trina
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"...when the gift of sight is cause enough for jubilation."
Billy Collins from the poem. HIGH

DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain;Hemicrania Continua; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;
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