I wasn't going to post a reply because I don't have the faintest idea what you're going through or what to say to help. I'm mourning a loss as well, although it would do us both an injustice to compare. I know how little I'm greiving, over the loss of a long term relationship, so I can only imagine what it feels like to lose someone to death. I just want to say I'm sorry and I wish you didn't have to go through this. I wish you still had your son in physical form, but I hope you feel his spirit.
Have you thought about grief counseling? I would imagine that such a traumatic event would be life altering. You needn't be so hard on yourself to be a certain way. No one grieves the same way and no one deals with loss the same way. A therapist might help you, in the very least, learn to cope with your son's death. I sincerely wish you the very best and am sending you positive energy and love.
Thank you Boo
I feel like pulling my hair out of my head and screaming right now.
I think you are right I need counseling. They say it would get easier as time goes on but it does not it only gets worse because the shock wears off and reality sets in.
It is all so unreal and unfair. You are not suppose to bury your children they are suppose to bury you.
Again thanks for listening.
Post Edited (irene17) : 6/25/2006 2:12:59 AM (GMT-6)
I'm so sorry for your tragic loss of your son. There will always be times, but espescially the anniversary of the accident and particluarly holidays and his birthday that will be very emotional for you.
Maybe you could sit down with your family and tell them how hard it is for you and they could talk about how it is for them. All of you come up with some ideas for comforting each other and getting through those times when they occur. Talk about Chris during those times and talk about how you each miss him. Remember him and allow your grief and share and comfort each other.
You miss him; you'll remember him always. These times of grief and depression will be there but they will get better--easier, less painful, and less frequent.
My heart goes out to you,