Hi Chrisi, Welcome to Healing Well. I am glad that you found us.
There are so many kind caring people here willing to help no matter what they are going through in their lives.
I wanted to say that with you being adopted there is no way to know if depression or any mental illness runs in your familys past history. However, there are certain things that a physician will look for when trying to diagnosis these. I agree with atedogs in that you need to find a psychiatrist to assess the situation. Your counselor should be able to point you in the right direction there.
It sounds as if you have alot on your plate and are being left to handle everything on your own. Then your husband is causing you more stress and worry by leaving and making wonder if he is coming home. If I read your post right? Maybe some joint counseling would be a good idea?
Anyhow, we are here for you when ever you need us.