My mom and I have had troubles too. I have chronic pain due to a bad back (5 surgeries etc.) and this is when my depression and anxiety kicked into overdrive. She was visiting and I was so anxious I couldn't leave the house and she was mad that I didn't take her to the airport. She had no idea what a mess I was - almost suicidal. She understands better now, but it took some time. In the mean time, I started taking Effexor - which helps both anxiety and depression and I got counseling - both of which saved me. Now she constantly complains about
her aches and pains to me - while I am in too much pain to do life's normal activities - like going to the mall - which she has no problem doing. She says she shouldn't complain to me and the next sentence it starts again. It makes me want to scream. I love my mother a lot- and I am not going to change her - so I have been working with my therapist on how to deal with this on my side.
Lumbar post laminectomy syndrome, radiculopathy, spinal stenosis, disc degeneration, otesoporosis, spinal cord stimulator. No accidents - just inherited a bad back.
Meds: Effexor, Gabitril, Hydrocodone, Percocet, Ativan, Flexiril (not all at the same time) :)