red09, i know this my sound really silly but i did check your suggestion and found a really good site already. believe it or not i have been researching depression for a few years trying to understand to help my husband but had never found the depression fallout forum so i thank you immensly for that reply.
saying that i would still love to hear other peoples perspectives on this, thanks
thanks for the replies,
the breakdown was 5 years ago and he attempted suicide twice (though each one was really a call for help and drink unduced), he has been told by gps he suffers from depression and i believe he suffers from dysthymia?, the breakdown came at a very stressful time he changed jobs and couldnt cope. he wont go on meds because he says they are what caused the breakdown, i actually feel that a lot of the problem is that i have helped too much if that is possible, im the one who has come up with ideas for college or suggested places he might go to make friends. i just feel so frustrated that he wont deal with the d, in his words it will never go away. for me its not the fact that he has d its the blame i get and yes i know that could be part of the d but that doesnt help. you mentioned it could be something else what could that be, re hospital the doctor wouldnt section him but advised him to go to hospital, at the time we went got onto the ward and he walked out and refused to stay.
all these thoughts are really helpful
It is hard to tell but it could be a borderline personality disorder by the way you describe it. I am not a doctor and dont know him but here is a link for you to look at and see if it sounds familiar to you.....
got some really good advice from you all and thanks to you guys i have found a forum that is really helping already. but can anyone explain something to me, i have researched depression over the past few years and as much as i have read the signs and symptoms and read a number of books they dont seem to hardly touch on the real symptoms, reading the other forums it has become apparent that blame by someone who is depressed is common, on either themselves or so, that becoming self centered is not unusual, would not having the full knowledge help everyone involved in this illness.......................
busy, Yes I agree with what you are saying in regards to depression. However, you do have to remember that each of us who are depressed have either went through a traumatic event in our lives, have had a bad home life/upbringing, or really just have a chemical in-balance in the brain. To break it down in such a way would be impossible, as everyone of us feels depression and reacts to it in a different way. This is why the psychiatric field has a randomized diagnostic system in determining depression. Most of us do have much of the same symptoms of isolation, crying, irrational anger.
I hope that you continue to find the answers that you are looking for. You are always more than welcome to come here and seek any kind of help or ask questions. We will help in anyway we can.....