My motivation is lacking

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Sadsong
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Date Joined Feb 2006
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   Posted 3/9/2006 4:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I tend to have trouble getting out of bed in the morning.  But, when I get to work I tend to be fine.  I have trouble again when I return home.  I live by myself and I'm finding that I just don't have the motivation to do the things that need to get done - cooking dinner, doing laundry, cleaning the bathroom, washing the dishes, etc.  (I actually bought new underwear yesterday instead of going to the laundry mat.  I just couldn't face bundling everything up, lugging it down the 3 flight of stairs and going through the process of washing it all and folding it and lugging it back up and putting it all away.)  Ahh!  I have successfully lived with roommates in the past where I always made sure to keep my space along with any shared space clean, since I could never live with myself if my actions were having a negative effect on other people.  But, for some reason I can't seem to keep my own place clean when I'm living by myself.
 
Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get my place into better shape?  I mean when someone actually wants to visit I find a way to prevent them from coming over, since I'd be embarrassed if they discovered that every flat surface in my kitchen is covered with dirty dishes or there's so much stuff on the living room floor that I can't walk across it without stepping on something.  Which makes me even more depressed and isolated, since my lack of motivation is pushing the social interaction that I crave. 
 
 
 

Optical_Quester
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Date Joined Oct 2003
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   Posted 3/10/2006 1:19 AM (GMT -7)   
I can relate.  Last year I got around to doing some renos on the house and had to clean the house first.  Spent 3 months cleaning, found garbage from 2 or 3 years earlier, 3 trips to the dump redface  . Didn't quite get it fully clean but had the opportunity to start some-what fresh.  Now i'm back to the same place i was,  my failure is not setting up a proper routine or having my priorities out of order.  That's a big one priorities,  wish you well.


Sadsong
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Date Joined Feb 2006
Total Posts : 344
   Posted 3/10/2006 7:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your replies. I guess my problem has more to do with how I think about the household tasks. When I'm depressed I "dred" doing them rather than just doing them. I mean they really are no big deal until I let them get to the point where they are now and then I just start thinking they'll never get done or start dreaming about all the fun stuff I could be doing rather than cleaning my place. Then I start beating myself up for not doing anything productive. Okay, I will take one chore at a time. Tomorrow I will take my clothes to the laundry mat. Then I will doing something fun. Sunday I will wash my dishes, and I have to catch up on some stuff at work, but I will make dinner plans! Monday night I will vacuum. Tuesday night I will clean the bathroom. Wednesday night I will dust. Thursday night I will pick up the living room. Then I will enjoy the weekend.

This may sound crazy, but I need folks to hold me accountable for my above mention list of chores and perhaps a little encourage along the way. I'll keep ya'll posted. :) Muchas gracias!
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