Hi jjjjj -
I would completely agree with you - men and women are treated differently in our society. The social stereotypes could be described as follows: men are expected to be strong, women are expected to be supportive and understanding. When it comes to depression these sex roles seem to place a larger burden on males, since men aren't suppose to talk about their feelings or show any sign of weakness. Whereas, it's more socially acceptable for women to be depressed - i.e. postpartum. Woman also tend to have larger social networks, so we have more people to lean on when things get bad. I find it interesting that you admit "that sometimes I am jealous of woman getting better treatment from society". I have also thought the same of men. It seems as though the "grass is always greener on the other side". I also think that some of us have figured out how to best use society to our own advantage.
I've always been told that I'm "cute". I am a 31 year old female, who looks about 21 - 25 (I just got carded this eveing when I went to buy wine.) I've discovered that I can use this to my advantage or let it piss me off. So, when the mood strikes I'll bat my eyes and let some guy "help" me change my tire or check my oil - eventhough I am completely capable of both. I figure he gets a cheap thrill and I get something accomplished for free and without getting dirty.
Have a good night!
Exactly my point. Even in my job and being supervisor of RCF's for the mentally ill. My employee's most of them men I had to work harder to get them to do their jobs and follow the rules that I set forth as they didnt feel that they should have to listen to me. I have been in my position for over 11 years. Also I have taken my SUV to the mechanics and was told once to have my husband call them, like they didnt want to deal with me only a man. I just took my truck and walked out.
Granted some women do get away with a lot and as Sadsong said can play on their looks to get what they want, I wont say I havent done this at times and most likely will again but it is a man driven world.
Post Edited (jjjjj) : 3/15/2006 12:08:13 PM (GMT-7)
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