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anything
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   Posted 3/26/2006 11:50 AM (GMT -7)   
My name is Hari and i think im 15. I think im suffering from depression. I have always done well in middle school. i had a 4.0 gpa. but in 7th grade i did bad the 1st quarter so i really kicked in and i did well. my parents were really proud. I want to be a cardiologist or radiologist one day but now that im in high school im not sure thats going to happen. I didnt really think High school was goin to be hard compared to middle school but i was wrong. In the 1st quarter i got a 3.0 gpa 2nd quarter i got a 2.7 and now i think i have my first d in my whole life maybe even 2. My father has bp and many things so im soo scared to tell him these things because of his health status. My grades have been dropping constantly and i need a solution. I need to get a 4.5 gpa for the rest of my high school life. I think a major factor in my poorness in school is this computer. I play way too many games on it sometimes for 3hrs someetimes even more and these are on weekdays! After my grades dropped my parents are just getting more and more angry and they yell at me and tell me that i am nothing compared to what they expected. I feel soo bad about it.  I need help and fast. Please ppl. Please give me a solution to every question i asked. Thanks for all the help.

anything
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   Posted 3/26/2006 11:56 AM (GMT -7)   
A quick reply would be very helpful.

els
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   Posted 3/26/2006 4:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh anything,  I am so sorry I didnt see your post sooner.  I really dont know what to say for you as it seems that you already know what the problem is.  High school is harder than middle school and you have to work twice as hard at getting good grades.  If you really want to go to college and make something of yourself you have to get good grades in school.  Hopefully then you will be able to qualify for a scholarship.  I can understand being scared to tell your dad about your grades but you do need to talk to him and your mother also.  You are not responsible for how they are going to react or any of their reactions.  The only person you can control is you.  Do you understand what I am trying to say here? 
Or if you think that telling them would be too hard or too much for you to do you could always write them a letter and that way you can tell them of your feelings in it so you are sure to get them out and not be interrupted.  It is always your choice.  Let us know how it goes.....
~elisha
 


Neurotransmissing
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   Posted 3/26/2006 4:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I suggest you turn OFF the computer, go out and get some air, socialize with your friends; also relax and spend time with these family members ... and on a relaxed basis (don't talk about business).

Then ... take it from there.

It sounds like you are a healthy young MAN; being tied to the computer can and DOES cause what you describe. It's just not healthy sweetie, you need a life and activities in which to involve yourself on a face-to-face basis. Get out there and live that precious life you've been blessed with; bet you'll see those grades go right back up!

(((HUGS)))


Psalm 3:5;6;7;8
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;"
"in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
"Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil."
"This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones."

Post Edited (Neurotransmissing) : 3/27/2006 9:53:38 AM (GMT-7)


anything
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   Posted 3/27/2006 9:44 AM (GMT -7)   
im a guy.lol.

Neurotransmissing
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   Posted 3/27/2006 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Sorry Hari, couldn't see you! LOL

I'm not the brightest light on the strand lately, the name says it all!!

The spelling of your name threw me, my humble apology.

Feeling better about things???
Psalm 3:5;6;7;8
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;"
"in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
"Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil."
"This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones."


anything
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   Posted 3/27/2006 10:34 AM (GMT -7)   
sort of

Neurotransmissing
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   Posted 3/27/2006 10:41 AM (GMT -7)   

Hari,

Please elaborate, then I can try to help. 

I have company coming over, so I can't stay online; however, I will log on and check this thread after my company departs tonight. 

Take care!  Try to get out of the house, and off the computer; I'm taking my own advice!!

XO


Psalm 3:5;6;7;8
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;"
"in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
"Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil."
"This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones."


denton1980
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   Posted 3/27/2006 6:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Hari,I am the mother of three and they all did well in school. I was always proud of them and I love them very much. I was happy that theymade good grades but the most important thing was that they were happy. I am sure your parents love you and would love you even if you had a 1.0 gpa.
I think you need to find a way to relax a little and give your parents more credit than you are giving them. I think you may be more disappointed in yourself (for spending to much time on the computer games) than your parents would be in your grades. I promise, Moms and Dads are proud of their children for many different reasons , not just good grades.I think you will be a GREAT cardiologist.

Babr
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   Posted 3/27/2006 6:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Sometimes the solution is right in front of our eyes.  Think about the amount of times you are on the computer.  It can't  be person that you can talk to....................therfore it isn't a person.  What you need is people interaction in your life. Log off and involved you people. 
Babr

Neurotransmissing
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   Posted 3/27/2006 9:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Hari???

Did you get out today?? I hope you got out and about and changed your scenery, even it you only took a walk! It's a start. Hope to hear from you soon!

~ Cindy
Psalm 3:5;6;7;8
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;"
"in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
"Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil."
"This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones."


anything
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   Posted 3/29/2006 12:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for the great advice. However since its spring break i am just not thinking about studying. I guess i need to more because m parents are yelling more and its gettin very stressfull and im worried about my parent's health.

FallenAngel311
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   Posted 3/29/2006 4:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Definately concentrate on your school work, and start getting away from the computer so much.

You probably get this alot... but PLEASE do well in school... and study hard. I screwed off in High School (I'm 25 now), and didn't think I'd go to college. My FINAL GPA through high school was 2.06... and probably the only reason I got into Penn State was because I'm an adult student.

Even if right now you're not sure what you want to do totally, or even if you are... do good in school... you'll thank yourself for it later. The better you do, the more help you can get once you get into college.

Being penned up in the house doesn't help either. I just started a new job and have no time to go out... but gosh I wish I did. I just started as a 911 Dispatcher (my training started Monday anyway)... and we have HOMEWORK!!! I get up at 5:30am, leave around 7-7:15, start at 8am... get out at 4pm... come home, do homework and go to bed. Ugh. But... it pays really good, has EXCELLENT benefits, and I get to help people.

Anyways I'm rambling (not fully awake yet).

But PLEASE do yourself a favor... get off that puter, and get your grades up!! Otherwise, you'll be like me and wish there was a time machine so you could go back in time and kick yourself in the butt for not applying yourself more!

Keep your chin up, and good luck!
Hugs,

Nikki

I have chronic fatigue syndrome, anxiety (at this current moment), and some minor abdominal pain which still hasn't been figured out yet... need a break from all the testing ;)

Medications:

CFS: Provigil 200mg, once a day
Anxiety: Lorazepam .5 or 1mg 3xs a day or as needed


anything
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   Posted 3/29/2006 10:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the help. BUt the computer has to be stopped. I tried to do biology but my computer kept distracting me and i only read wat the bolded words mean and that wunt get me a good grade in high school. I need a new strategy. Can any of u think of ways i can get away from the computer so i can study? thanks

els
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   Posted 3/30/2006 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi anything....I was wondering if the games your playing on the computer are those "first person shooter" games the guys like so much?  The reason I ask is that it seems there are many, many people that have an addiction to these types of games.  And now since you can play them over the internet with your friends even it is bigger than ever.  I am a girl that grew up with the original Atari, stone age right?  So I have never really gotten into or seen the fascination with these types of games.  However, my ex-husband would spend hours every night playing with his friends after work and on weekends.  It was as if nothing else existed.

Anyway,  on to your question...you just need to go at this problem at a different angle.  Everyone has been saying to get off the computer which in hindsight is a wonderful idea but, you would need use of your computer for school work.  And the temptation would be too great..right?  How about doing a reward system with yourself?  Such as you come home from school and get your studying done first thing then your reward for that would be being able to play your games.  Also, instead of trying to just stop playing altogether maybe limit your amount of time to one hour and stick with it.  You sound like a smart guy and just need to learn to discipline yourself when it comes to these games.

Good luck and let us know how it goes....


~elisha~ 
 
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