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Akram
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   Posted 4/23/2006 7:17 AM (GMT -7)   
hi, sorry if this is a sort of negative post

just wondering, who here feels boared from work, the whole processs of getting up from bed, waking up (takes me half and hour to wake up ), going on the road for over 40 mins, finally arriving in work but have nothing to do there just sit ( my manager has not assigned me anything since i'm on probation ).

just tell me if you find boring things in your workday! and how to do you cope with it..
i suspsect i am increasingly boared of things because of my deppresion. i'm actually boared of almost everything in life ><.
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Keem
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   Posted 4/23/2006 10:38 AM (GMT -7)   
hi akram,

i dont really have a solution for you, but i definitely have to say that i feel the same as you do. it sucks because not only am i bored with basically everything, i'm not quite motivated to change things. i used to love working out, cooking and just plain wandering around aimlessly, but i don't really care about any of that anymore. i have the urge sometimes to do something, but i never follow through, i just sit around like a zombie. i just started cymbalta yesterday, so hopefully it'll help me get back on the right track.

i know it's not really a solution of any kind, but i just wanted to let you know that you're definitely not alone. sometimes just knowing that i'm not the only person in the world with my problem helps just as much as anything else.

take care,
kim

Akram
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   Posted 4/23/2006 1:03 PM (GMT -7)   
hi keem, thanks for your reply i have ups and downs but mostly downs lately not sure why.

its good to know someone has the same problem as me, and i find it funny you used the term zomie thats how i feel. when i come back from work i usually lie down at bed, not sure why just feel like there isn't anything worth doing at that point, later on in the evening i go out or do something productive i try to fill my time.
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brownleaf
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   Posted 4/23/2006 10:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Akram, and Kim,
On a general basis, i would think most people are doing a job they would prefer not to, and if you are just sitting and waiting for work to arrive at your desk etc, then thats going to make it much harder to deal with, then depression on top,

I Think having a job that has some interest is important, but everything has its dull moments, no matter what you do,

Just a question, are either of you trying anything creative in your life outside of work, using that side of your brain, can often add some colour to life, and it has a lot of benifits, and even in the learning something stage, the little successes give you some great rewards, just a thought

Akram
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   Posted 4/23/2006 11:06 PM (GMT -7)   
i play football once a week, sort of push myself to do it cause i'm not very fit, so i dont enjoy it very much, apart from that i go to the cinema ( alone >< ) at least once per week. on fridays sometimes we go outdoor country side with the family.
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brownleaf
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   Posted 4/24/2006 2:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Akram,
I was thinking something like painting, learning musical instrument or writing, Whether there is scientific agreement or not, these conditions have been a part of many artists lives, and great ones, here in Australia, science is finally leaning that way, thinking goes that there is something about these sorts of conditions that make great Artist's in the many feilds of art, ie music, Drama, writing, painting etc, theres also the fact that doing these things stimulate the brain, in different ways, i would think it's not so much the condition, but learning something creative like this makes your condition work for you, not against you

I got through most of my stuff with this, writing, and i play some instruments, even tried some painting, and no was i lousy at painting, but i tried, and made that effort,
even if you can't afford much, you can still maybe try to play the mouth organ, "harmonica", and as a friend says, you can take that anywhere, and when youre feeling messed up, you can sit under the stars and just make it roar,
or sketching or carving wood into things,
I notice the "to be or not to be" below your posts maybe somethings calling you, and you need to start using that side of your brain, it may not cure you but at least in a way youre fighting back, and learning something, and who knows, what you decide to try may turn into the greatest passion and love of your life, and because of that, everything else will come too,

Akram
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   Posted 4/24/2006 3:20 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks brownlead i'll think of that, nice advice. but i'll need to take some classes to play instruments. well not all of them anyway. specificly the harmonica should be eazy enough. i take it you live in australia thats a wonderfull country hope to visit someday. my friends tell me its beutifull.

nice remark on my sigy, my old sig was "I'd rather train a fanatic than raise a corpse from the dead" but as i became depressed this sounded negative for me and other depresed people so i changed it.
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brownleaf
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   Posted 4/24/2006 5:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Akram,
Yer Australia's not bad, but if you ever come over here, spend some time in a really beautiful country New Zealand,

A friend asked me to help her buy a guitar, and show her a couple of things, all i did pretty much was tell her to practice at least one hour a day, and not get upset when her playing got worse, "Im not a good teacher" a year later she has several songs she can play, and pretty well, well lets say a bit better than pretty well,
if you decide on anything musical just yell ok, im happy to help,

I like the other sig too, though as i like the topic of medicine and Psychology, i think i'd like to be able to raise a corpse, theres a few i'd like to ask a few questions ...., but yer the new one is better

Where are you from Akram ?,

Akram
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   Posted 4/25/2006 12:00 PM (GMT -7)   
i'm from jerusalem, the spirtual city, but i live in amman-jordan
hey that girl is incredable, i really think she has some talent, i messed a little with my cousin's guitar but nothing intresting came out O o.

i think my feel for bordem in general is because i'm addicted to Online Computer Games, because i had to quit that as it was affecting me to a degree i lost a job for it and lost friends etc, but even though i stoped and getting my life toghether i still yarn for a chance to play again.

it's just like alcoholics, gambling , drugs etc but its in a game which keeps spining around in my head urging me to go back and play. i try to forget about it but my friends who also play the game keep calling me back etc its dificult ><

so without gaming, and with so much urg to play i feel restless and withdrawal from work and from other activities which leaves me to sleep. but i am trying to cope and i knoow my medication is working in the background all i need to do is continue to survive. at least now i am back to work and that is filling most of my day now.
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brownleaf
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   Posted 4/25/2006 9:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Akram,
Hope this view doesn't offend anyone, but i have always thought, Jerusalem should be God's City where all can go to Pray in their own way, Imagine how we could all then listen to how God speaks in many ways, a haven free of politic's, well thats my politics anyway,

I would love to see The ancient Petra one day, hoping next year, if things go well,

I think when you take up something like Guitar, it at first always seems to be a big task, but as the old saying goes, practice makes perfect, 9 Years of music study and that still goes round in my head,

I have a tendency to get addicted to stuff like that, so i try very hard to keep myself away from it, even the TV, i don't own one, because i feel it is part of the problem, we like not to admit it but TV is just as much an addiction, and i saw that and got rid of it, and felt a huge difference in my life, i read, write, play my guitar or piano, or i look into Health stuff on the internet, which before i just couldn't be bothered.

I think the worst of this will disappear reasonably quick, but you have to remove the things also that are a close relation to your addiction, turn your time into something positive and train your mind to enjoy that more, not always easy, but in time it will come, this is why i suggested the creative, saisfying this part of your brain, will satisfy you as a whole, make something like this an addiction if you have to, but it is a positive one, which wont upset the balance of your natural self
I found especially with Games, that there seemed to be a visual residual, like it was playing in my mind well after i put the game away, the effect is a form of brainwashing, and for me a good reason why i dispise the media, because that is exactly what they are doing

Keep in touch Akram, i think you have a good mind, and one that you can definitely make use of in a positive way, take care

jmjmon
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   Posted 4/26/2006 12:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Akram,
I am a new member of this sight, and just want you to know that I feel your pain. I recently quit my job feeling that I needed a change. Not a good idea. It has sent me into a downward spiral. I spend a lot of time alone and in that "zombie" state. I had a very strefful job working in a kitchen, but the one thing that helped me when I was there was going "above and beyond." I miss the feeling of being needed. Talk with your employer and let them know you are capable of handling the tasks they give you, seeing as how they seem to be resistant to give you work.

I hope you found something in what I just said that will help a little. Hang in there. I don't know many people that like your job, but you don't realize what you had until its gone. Take it from me.

Akram
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   Posted 4/26/2006 1:59 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks jmjmon, and welcome to the site, also thanks brownelf.

TV Addiction YES, its what i usually do watch opra and Inside Eddition and Insider etc etc, everyday can get boring as well.
Jerusalem should be for all religions i agree, currently i can't visit the city even though both my parents were born in it and were raised there, they fled durring the war outside in 1967, right now my mother is applying for a VISA , as a jordanian citizen and waiting to see if she can visit her birth city or not.
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jmjmon
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   Posted 4/27/2006 10:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Akram,
That is a tough situation. I have lived in Minnesota all of my life and don't really know what I would do if I was not able to come back here. What I can relate to is the TV addiction. I may not watch the same shows, but I find myself more and more drawn to the television the more I watch. Lets make a deal. Lets try, for at least one hour a day, to find an activity that does not include TV(reading, cooking, excersice, ect.), no matter how hard it is. I want help and need support, lets kick this slump.

P.S. I wish your mom the best with her Visa.

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   Posted 4/30/2006 7:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I am actually worried about this. I start a new job tomorrow,as an office adminstrator. It is a very small branch office,with only 2 employees (me and the salesperson). I hope that it is not totally boring all of the time as it took me almost 2 years just to find a job. It is not my dream job,not even close and I can not get myself excited about it at all. I am thinking that once I get my first paycheck it will be better. But then I worry about that too as the paycheck will not be what I need to get my bills caught up.....UGH
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Akram
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   Posted 4/30/2006 1:17 PM (GMT -7)   
ShynSassy, good luck with your new job, since its only 3 people you want to make a good impresion from your first day, be nice to them and make friends with them as you will work with them everyday and i hope you will feel at home in your new job.

I have an update with regards to my own job i have bin given my first assighment and it inlcludes getting Certified on a product line and training people , so nos i'm very buesy getting myself ready :) the first 2 week were hard as i didn't have anything to do and felt bad etc i didn't know what to expect really. but know its over , i hope.
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Akram
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   Posted 4/30/2006 1:21 PM (GMT -7)   
jmjmon,

I try and avoid TV as much as i can sometimes there isn't nothing else to do which gives me the feeling i am TV-Traped. when i have empty time this is what i do Sleep it off, if sleeping isn't working i do TV, but evey 15 to 30 minutes i go outside the house for a smoke. so i'm practicly going in and out.

my favourate activity the one i am not alloued to do is sit on the puter and play online games. and because i can't play em i end up doing sleep-tv-smoking routine..
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james73
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   Posted 4/30/2006 7:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Your not alone ,I took a job a couple of years ago that I am severly bored in and most days cant handle it ,I just get out and talk to differnt people when I dont have anything to do ...I just can't see me doing this another 25 years though...like I said your not alone!!

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jmjmon
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   Posted 4/30/2006 8:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Akram,
Wow, it's like you are reading my mind. I also enjoy going out for a smoke, and watch tv during the other time. Congrats on your job assignment, you sound excited. Lead by example. I used to be in charge of about 10 people in a kitchen and looking back i don't think i did the greatest job leading them at all times. Best of luck, I know you'll do great.

els
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   Posted 5/1/2006 3:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi guys,  dont mean to interrupt your conversation here :-)   but, I was wondering if any of you have thought about going to school or back to school?  I dont know what your education levels are but as for me I have a Bachelors degree in Psychology with a Associates in Accounting.  I am now taking evening classes for my Masters in Psych.  It was hard for me to decide to go back to school after being out for 10 years and stressed over the age difference.  But it really isnt so bad...and all my classes but one are on-line.  As for job all I can say is that most people do end up having a job they dislike doing or are not completely happy with.  You can try to change it and find something that you like to do that engages your energy and mind or stick with what your doing and make the best of it. 


Akram
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   Posted 5/1/2006 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Els, i thought about masters too , but it seems in my field IT it doesn't count that much, or at least i think so , my collegue has master and it gave him 10% raise in his income other than that i don't see the point , besides i'm very happy to have done collegue and finished with it i hate studying lol. but i still have to study in my work so i can't run away from it, since IT changes so much and new products come out you have to keep learning, right now i'm working on a certification which requires a lot of studying and then take an exam.
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els
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   Posted 5/1/2006 9:45 AM (GMT -7)   
well see Akram that is the same thing...getting your certificates.  thats your field and your learning using your brain...I know nothing about computers other than how to turn them on and I constantly have trouble with mine.  I have one that just went back to the shop for the second time in two weeks...frustrating!!!  My ex-husband is so good with computers but I dont want to ask him to fix mine for me.

Akram
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   Posted 5/1/2006 9:54 AM (GMT -7)   
awwww, computers are eazy for me but i still cant fix them if its a hardware problem something needs to get replaced, my father's pc was not working for 2 days then it suddenly started working for no apparent reason, sometimes computers can be really wierd :) hope your PC gets fixed soon. i hope the shop isn't very far if its far thats anoying..
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   Posted 5/1/2006 1:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Akram,  No the shop isnt too far I live in a relatively small town.  Everywhere you want to go takes about 10 to 15 minutes to get there.  Compared to where I used to live in Kansas City that was a much bigger city it easily would take an hour to go anywhere.  I am not sure if it is a hardware problem or not.  I have had to have the hard drive replaced once already like two weeks ago.  Then yesterday I unplugged it due to thunderstorms and when I went to plug it back in and start it up it just reboots itself.  Windows wont come up, I cant get it to go in safe mode or anything its just like its crashed.  I dont know.  The tech guy doesnt even know what the problem with it is.  But I do have my notebook so I am still connected while my baby is being worked on....


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   Posted 5/3/2006 2:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for starting this topic. This is my first post on this forum.

I have been struggling in a career that I can't stand for the past 12 years. I make pretty good money, but I am miserable day in and day out, and I don't know what I would do instead. In the past, I had been able to get through by having hobbies and things outside of work to look forward to. But lately, I feel like the job is sucking the life out of me, and I have started to lose interest in doing the things that I used to enjoy. I know I need a new career, but don't know what I want to do. I have read all of the self help books and taken all of the tests to figure out my interests, but at this point, I am so depressed that a)nothing sounds appealing and b)I don't think I'd be good at anything.

I started seeing a therapist a few months ago. He just admit that he doesn't know what to do with me. It's getting harder and harder to make it through the day at work. Which makes me more and more depressed. Which makes it harder to get through the day. A vicious cycle.

I don't know if any of you have been in a similar situation and managed to get out.

Akram
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   Posted 5/4/2006 5:26 AM (GMT -7)   
hi runnergirl34,

i can relate to your story. sometimes we seek things that we don't have, when we get them we find they aren't what we are looking for.

first i was in IBM my job was pre-sales, i spent 5 years with them i didn't like being in the sales i wanted to be in tech support or implementations. but they just kept me in the sales since i was already trained for it, i used to have headakes in meetings sometimes. finaly i moved to another company which gave me the job i wanted, which was implementation focused, i liked the job but i was working harder than before to keep up with the new reponsibilaties and chalanges. if i have to go through all of this again i would go through it the same way i did.

my advice is just relax, its good to have a decent paying job, work on the career you want, remember everything is possible but not everything is pheasable, for example you cant work as an electrical engineer if your in a newsagency, dont go to far from your current job. sometimes just changing the company you work for even if its the same job might lift your spirits up.

work eats us all, personal question are you still single? maybe you need something to fill your time, date someone.
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