Thanks for the insights. I moved out 2 1/2 years ago and finally said that enough is enough too. One of the most difficult things is to listen to my soon to be ex playing the victim and not getting dragged into that pit of poison. I know that each time I follow her into that path, I give her all my power and am really working at staying in the present and keeping the perspective of what she feels and says is her own issue and I need to stay where I know it is healthy for me and putting on my emotional armor and marching to battle is not what I want or choose to do. The difficulty is that every time we talk, I am less willing to settle and want to ensure I get all that I am entitled to. Stating that I need time to think about
it is a great way to remove myself from the conflict and allowing me to center myself again and know that I am acting how I choose and not reacting to the situation. Thanks again, I am soooooo glad I found HW.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
RandyPlease allow HealingWell to continue helping others by donating: http://www.healingwell.com/donate/Dx'd with Crohn's at age 12. Symptoms since age 5.
Learning to live with this Disease rather than be its victim after 40 years.