Worried About My Niece...

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janetlee
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   Posted 7/3/2006 8:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi,
I'm feeling kind of depressed cuz my 20 year old niece may be on drugs. She's lost about 30 lbs. recently and has come over a couple of times. looking for something to drink and eat. She doesn't eat much though. She seems to be between jobs right now...don't seem to hold 'em for long. She talked freely the other night about how she has used drugs before, mostly ecstasy and weed. She claims she hasn't used any since April. "Mia" has had a problem with lying for a number of years now, even about inconsequential things. It's like she's a pathelogical liar. As she sat here in our living room, she kept twisting up her mouth. She said that it was because she has wisdom teeth coming in and so her mouth hurts...she went to our cousin's house last night at 1 a.m., waking them up, saying it was an emergency. When my cuz's hubby left the room, Mia hit up my cuz for $20.00 She claimed that her debit card wasn't working... eyes   My cuz told her that she didn't have any money (true, but even if she had, she wouldn't have given it to her). After Mia left, my cuz's hubby said that he believes Mia is using coke. He noticed the way she was doing her mouth and since he was once a coke user himself, he said it totally believes she's using as he used to react the same way. Mia has borrowed a few dollars here and there from us (me and my mom) and never repays it. We don't ask for it back because she'll just lie and make up an excuse. We try not to give her money, but we will give her a meal. Has anyone else have any experience with drug use, either personal or a loved one? Does this sound like a cocaine thing to you? sad
Even if she is on drugs, we are extremely limited as to what we can do. She has always been such an independent person and her parents have no control over her...they didn't even when she lived at home with them.
thanx,
janet
I was okay until that flock of bird dogs flew over...


janetlee
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Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1986
   Posted 7/4/2006 1:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, Ate.
I appreciate you sharing a personal, private story with me (and the whole forum!) very much.
I know that there's not much to be done...Mia has always been a very smart girl, but she is so immature and has low self-esteem in some ways. It's strange, cuz in some other ways, she seems to have plenty of self-esteem! She's the type that will use you and on the other hand is used herself. She's selfish and self-asorbed in a lot of ways, but on the other hand, she hates to see anyone sad. I remember when my dad died, she just came and laid down next to me and begged me to not cry...that's when she was 12. But even though that was a long time ago, she is still softhearted in many ways.
She is almost like 2 people in 1. She always has been! I will always feel that her parents let her down in the way they brought her up, but no matter what happened in the past, it can't be undone now. I recall trying to get her to seek some mental health therapy a few years ago. She would talk about how angry she felt inside. She said that she sometimes felt like she wanted to drive her car headlong into a wall at a high rate of speed. She has some deepseated issues for sure. I'm just venting, I realize, as no one can change her except Mia herself. I hope she gets wise before it's too late.
Thanks,
janet
I was okay until that flock of bird dogs flew over...

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