Hi irish, How wonderful to have a beach close by...I would have to drive miles and miles to reach a beach... Even if your working 80-110 hours every 2 weeks that is still quite a few hours to put in and still have to manage a household basically on your own. I am still going to push the family counseling...but if you have an appointment with a psychiatrist? then I am sure they will set you up with something (and family) to suit. I wouldnt recommend taking your mom to your first appointment as that is usually when the doctor gets an assessment of your family history and what is going on with you now (they ask lots of questions), you have to be totally and completely honest with them so they can form a treatment plan for you. You can discuss with the doctor if bringing your mom to your appointments is okay there after.
I dont have any recommendations for you on the kid situation as I dont have children and know nothing about raising kids. It does seem that your overwhelmed by the current situation and your mom isnt helping matters by reinforcing their behaviors. I am glad to see that you have gotten proactive and made some solutions. Keep posting...we are always here. Take care