I did not learn to master my antisocial personity disorder well enough to start working among people till I was aged 41. I do not have a close relationship with my sisters or family for the same reasons. I love my family and oddly enough they still love me. We will help each other however and whenever needed but we do seldom if ever socialize because, I do not like being around people without a tangible goal we are striving for. Social gatherings generally have no clearly defined goal so for me they are a disaster.
I did not learn to stop fighting at the drop of a hat till age 1995. What changed me is I almost killed a friend I grew up with from high school because he stole $5 from me and then lied about it. Generally when I had no memory of fights between me and the people I fought because, honestly I did not care about them whatsoever. The difference with fighting my old friend is I did not want to kill him so I tried to restrain myself as such I remember a great deal of it. I bashed the dude in the head with a heavy This End Up coffee table busting his face and giving him a concussion so serious he had to have it fixed by surgery. He almost died all for stealing $5 from me.
I was shocked at seeing just how horrible I looked when I was in a blood rage. Another time I learned about how aweful I Looked when upset occured when I was in a fight at a hospital and it was caught on video tape. I saw the fear of me in the faces of good people I considered dear friends. Having dear friends be afraid of me actually hurt me because, those people I would never hurt. I realized I was a monster because, I felt nothing. Since I feel nothing, having no conscience, I must manage my anger using pure intellect, logic and an understanding of the rules of polite society and its functioning.
I say all this because I want you to know their is hope for your loved one with Antisocial Personality Disorder. Like him I spent most of my life wandering from one low paying job to another. I'd stay at a job until someone got on my last nerve I'd blow up explode throw things smack someone, turn over a desk and leave. Like him I had like almost 60 jobs in like 28 years before going giving psychological help as part of my rehabilitation plan that included me going to college for computer science. Just know there is hope for him. Sometimes if a person with Antisocial Personality Disorder works long enough with time and age they learn to manage their antisocial personality disorder. Just know there is hope for him. Like you My sisters Love me in that they will help me if needed but they do not like me and frankly I do not blame them.
Best Wishes WOLF