Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 7/28/2006 6:01:12 AM (GMT-6)
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference.
Hi Ya Shy, I just couldn’t resist jumping in here.... I was with my now ex husband for 12 years total. 7 of those years we spent living together...when you posted the part about "his house" it hit me, as my ex was just like that. "Everything" was his, when we got together I was 19 and of course I was in school at the time and it was difficult to keep a steady job. Plus I was just a kid and trying to find a job that suited my schooling hours and me. Anyway, he held that against me for years...(Jump several years ahead) - he asked me to marry him after I had thrown him out of our duplex in the most horrible way...I had some of my friends come over; help me pack his things and took them all over to his parents house and had the door locks changed. This was after a terrible fight. I wouldn’t talk to him for a week then I started to let him come around again and it was all down hill from there. We got married a year later and I mistakenly thought he had changed...we lived apart for that year after I threw him out. We bought a house together, both our names on it, finances were split right down the middle and sometimes even to the penny. He made much more money than I did, as he works with computers. Everything was kept separate, it was so weird because it was like we were married in name but everything else was just like we were roommates again. And that is exactly how I thought of it...as roommates. Just every once in a while he would get interested in me...Ya know?
Anyway I am sorry for ranting on like that I don’t know what got into me...I am proud of you for voicing your thoughts on the subject. Stick to it....