Thanks for your reply Elisha.
you are absolutely right about the tumour. Although they're not sure if this new one is a fragment of the old one that got left behind or if it is indeed a new one. His consultant though was absolutely convinced that he got everything out during the ops. But on his scan you can clearly see something now. He has another scan in Sept. If it's still growing slowly they will continue to monitor it. Although now they think it might even be scar tissue showing on the scan. I hope so. Cos another op would be so hard to deal with.
He is under the doctor for his depression. He was offered therapy but he doesn't want that.
Although I said it was a few years ago it was actually when he was 19 - he is now 35. He was always very atheletic and enjoyed taking part in sports. I think this is what he now finds difficult.
He suffers from constant headaches. And because he is now deaf in one ear his balance is terrible too. Until recently he used a walking stick. I wish he still did, but he didn't like people looking at him. Although he looks like is drunk sometimes, especially when he is tired.
He has been unable to work due to his depression and the ops. It's very difficult for people to employ him, I think. He has just started working 2 days a week for his brother. So there is no problem if he can't work for any reason.
To be honest we've been coping on our own for all these years and most of the time it's ok. Just every now and then when he's very down I do find it hard. He does have a supportive family but I find that Dan (that's my hubby) can be quite amiable to them and to friends but actually quite mean and nasty to me.
I wondered how other carers get on with all. I find that it gets me 'down' at times and I just take the kids out for while and have a break.
I'm really waffling aren't I.
Anyway thanks for your reply.