Sometimes we have to "loose it" in order to take care of ourselves, in order to get our power back and say the words that we know to be true. Getting stepped on, taken advantage of and put through the wringer can only go on for so long - we finally hit overload - and today was YOUR day! Congratulations!
It is very empowering to stand toe to toe with someone who is damaging us and have our say (for a change) without holding back or mincing words. Your brother needs to be responsible for his actions and behaviors. You can't fix his life, or him - he'll have to do that for himself when he is ready.
You did really good today. Hang in there. Don't let him drag you down or use you up ... Never Again.
Zorna,don't feel bad for what you said ....I wish someone had been like that with me before I almost completly ruined my life ,I am now almost 5 years sober and it took my wife blowing at e like thta to realize my problem and yes zorna I am an alcoholic ,proud of it, no!!just proud that i am not drinking .....hope your family member gets better
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference.