I am so sorry your friend is a jerk. She problely has no idea what she has done.
I have also had a similar experiance.Years ago I just had had a misscarrige, I was more than just sad.
My best friend said to me "Snap out of it. Get on with your life." I know she ment well, was trying to help in her own way. I never forgave or forgot. That was 5 years ago. She is still my friend. Though I will never tell her a personal problem again.
The moral to this story is never forget who your true friends are.
Good luck. You will find a true & loyal friend if you just look around at who has been there with you no matter what.
Hi Sadcat, I am to adding my welcome to you, we are happy to have you join our community. It takes much strength and courage to move so far away from home to another country go to school. I imagine it is quite an adventure for you. I agree that perhaps you could benefit from some counseling. If you are at University you can check and see if they offer students discounted or free rates as many do. Also, I was going to suggest perhaps some volunteer work. This is a wonderful way to meet people and helps build up self-esteem as you feel that you are doing some good for others.
Please do continue to post, HW is a wonderful place for information and support. Not to mention that all our members here are completely wonderful and always willing to help. Looking forward to seeing more from you. Take care