Hi advertisinglady, I wanted to welcome you to healing well forum, we are happy to have you. I can understand your kids wanting to stay in their same school and with their same friends. And it does seem that you have a close relationship with them which is good. Perhaps it is also good that you are allowed to have this time with your new husband alone to get settled in and adjusted to life with each other. When I was a kid we moved a few times during my middle school and early high school years and it was difficult getting adjusted...from the kids stand point. As for the crying often it can be just sadness which is expected or could be some depression, you may want to speak to your doc and see if an adjustment in your Zoloft may be in order to help with that. We are always here so please feel free to post often we would love to hear more from you. Take care
Thank you guys so much for the posts. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated. My "x" and I share custody of our teenagers and they get along great with my new husband. We have a nice home, pets, and they have pretty rooms they decorated.
Before I got remarried all of us went to a family counselor, individually and together. She was a big help to me - she said leaving my girls would be like grieving, but I had no idea I would still feel so sad fo so long. It is uncomfortable trying to explain to new people WHY me girls don't live with me. I kow its hard for the girls to explain this to their friends as well. When I am in their hometown and run into old friends, I can just hear them saying - there goes the mom who left her girls :(
To IFIXIT - thank you for replying. I have a ? Do you still harbor any ill feelings toward your mom for leaving? That is one of my greatest fears - that they will never forgive me for leaving........
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The whole situation with my parents is pretty simple. I don't know why they got divorced. I hold them both responsible with an equal share in the outcome. My mother has asked multiple times to be allowed to tell her side of the story. I have refused to allow it. My reasoning in this has been that if I listen to her side, then by rights I should hear my fathers story. Then I would be in a position of deciding who was wrong . It would solve nothing and probably dredge up hurts and feelings better left alone. I don't hold a grudge for either of them. I do wonder what life would be like if???? Take care Jer