I need someone to really talk to!!! PLZ!

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shehurtsallova
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   Posted 9/11/2006 7:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Seriously.....life is getting harder and harder for me everyday. I just graduated high school in June and life is hectic. I have to pay for college on my own. Not only that...I still need to purchase a car. Plus Im trying to move out by next year...because my household is crazy. I've been through a lot with my family. And I can't take it... I haven't been able to let go that I was molested as a kid.. I've told my mother... but she said nothing other than.."what happened"? UGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!! My dad called me a tramp yesterday because I was bored yesterday and played in the tons of buckets of makeup I OWNED! And tha day b4 he called me a bullcrapter and a liar for reasons unknown!!! I can't do anything but have an attitude in this house because no one knows me here... Not only that...my boyfriends mom is on my case cuz she thinks I lied to her...plus her son and I have a account together...so when we move out together...we have enough money to get by...but see the thing is..he's a year younger than I...so he;s still in highschool....she follows him and baggers him all the time... and he tells me...she talks about me sometimes.... there's way more to my life...but this is whats going on now... I can't do this anymore...I can't.... I sit in my room at 2 in the morning and just cry....because I don't know what life will throw at me next...

shehurtsallova
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   Posted 9/11/2006 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   
I try to be hopeful, but everytime I smile and try to pick myself up..something always comes and knocks me down harder than b4... matter of fact...this mornin on my way to school my boyfriends mom called... asking me all types of questions, trying to get smart, just because Im trying to help better her son... so I missed 2 busses to school... and am stuck here waiting on the 1:30 bus so I can atleast take my last class... and I know...Im gonna hear more bull**** from atleast 2 other people today...

Also... can depression take a toll on yourr body.....cuz I haven't ben able to eat much for the past 4 weeks.. and I've had major headaches for about 2 months straight!!!

greyhound
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   Posted 9/11/2006 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Sending prayers and hugs. I care.
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shehurtsallova
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   Posted 9/11/2006 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I just can't stop crying and hurting...
-God knows I'll be ok, But do I believe it?


shehurtsallova
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   Posted 9/11/2006 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
darn...even this forum isn't helping. So many people are online... yet I hear from no one but one person... Im through... COMPLETELY!
-God knows I'll be ok, But do I believe it?


shehurtsallova
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   Posted 9/11/2006 8:36 AM (GMT -7)   
all I wanted was to hear a couple kind words so I could get through my darn day...its ok....
-God knows I'll be ok, But do I believe it?


LondonGirl22
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   Posted 9/11/2006 10:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi shehurtsallover

Im sorry you feel you haven't had many replies but somtimesits can take a while to get responses as people are logging into this site from different parts of the world so there is the time difference top consider. Im sure people will be along to offer their support.

Welcome to the site, I hope you find it useful.
Im sorry you are going through a hard time. I think you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling and see your doctor.

Take care and keep in touch
Victoria
 
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32years
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   Posted 9/11/2006 12:44 PM (GMT -7)   
i checked in all morning for a reply myself but had to go to work. just saw your post when i got home. girl if you don't stop running around in circles around yourself for just one moment you will go crazy. you have to take time out for yourself or you won't be able to deal with your overwelming life. start with breathing it may seem silly or uncomfortable but breath long breaths in and long breaths out. go hide in the bathroom to do it. count in 1 2 3 4 out the same way. do it several times, keep writting and keep talking, keep trying. you are the only one that can find yourself peace.

32 years

Phoelona
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   Posted 9/11/2006 1:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello I think that you should seek medical attention for your depression and your anxiety. I think once you have help you will not feel so overwhelmed, and that may help you somewhat. I am sorry that you are so overwhelmed, and I hope you feel better soon. Also tell your Dr that you are not sleeping very well so that they may can give you something to help, and possibly get you a case manager to help you not become overwhelmed. there is also metropolitan housing in most areas that wil help with housing if you are low income. You may want to seek help with your college expenses in a form of grants for your income level. Take Care and good day.

shehurtsallova
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   Posted 9/11/2006 2:58 PM (GMT -7)   
32years said...
i checked in all morning for a reply myself but had to go to work. just saw your post when i got home. girl if you don't stop running around in circles around yourself for just one moment you will go crazy. you have to take time out for yourself or you won't be able to deal with your overwelming life. start with breathing it may seem silly or uncomfortable but breath long breaths in and long breaths out. go hide in the bathroom to do it. count in 1 2 3 4 out the same way. do it several times, keep writting and keep talking, keep trying. you are the only one that can find yourself peace.

32 years
I thank you..I will try that... I went through this day ok... but my body hurt so bad... but I was talking with my boyfriend not long ago and he was trying to reassure me...its all gonna work out one day...he got me to laugh... I feel a little better... but I still have loads of work to do
-God knows I'll be ok, But do I believe it?


kimberlvt
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   Posted 9/11/2006 8:11 PM (GMT -7)   
You are at a very tough age my friend. I went through very trying times, similar to you. It gets better. Try to stay strong and you will be out on your own soon enough, calling your own shots. Life is still difficult, but you make your own decisions. Reach out to people who care, friends or teachers. Take care of yourself. As 32years said, remember to just breathe. We can relate...

judyinky
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   Posted 9/11/2006 9:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Coming from the prespective of an over controlliing parent, and having been raised in a dysfuctional family, I can understand both sides. I have been in your shoes as a teenager, and have lived some of it with my chidren. As kim said, this is a very tough time in your life.. Sometimes My best efforts to give advice or help my children ( like I think I need to do things) end up in turmoil, frustration and anger ( and then usually, depression). They are all grown and live out on their on now. Recently my youngest daughter, 23, and I have gone through situations that I would never have dreamed of happening. I have tried to help, but I cannot stop myself from trying to interfere with her life. So I have stopped calling. I feel so much better. I'm sure she does too :-) I figure the two of us will get a chance to be together soon and I will guard my tounge, and try to remember that she has to live her own live, and I have a life of my own to live.

I guess I taught my daughter well. She cuts me off when I become overbearning and controlling. During these times, I seem to forget the things I have learned to take care of myserlf, my emotions, health, ect.. I guesss it's temporary insanity. Or at least I claim it. LOL. I'm still a work in progress and I make mistakes. Not working things out with my daughter would be a big mistake. I hope you can reslove things with your parents. I don't know if that is possible, but I hope it is.

IT sounds like your bf's mother is doing exactly what I have done. And she is really keeping you upset. Maybe she thinks she is acting out of love, I don't know. Just remember, you have choices as to how you re-act.

I have learned this if I have every learned anything in 54 years. YOU must take care of yourself!! If you do not know how, you will have to learn to do that to survive.


I hope you will take some of the others' advice and try to find someone to talk to that can be objective, maybe a therapist. I wish I had done that earlier in my life. You sound like a smart girl, frustrated at some cirmcumstances, but the fact that you have sought out this board for support and help says a lot about you!! You're working on yourself, looking for answers and options instead of accepting things the way they are. Just remember that things do not change overnight.

I hope you have a better day tomorrow and keep coming back.

Be Well,

Judy
.
"Hope is seldom found in the things we can see;
it is the sweet fragrance of grace."



MakenziePaige15
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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 9/12/2006 12:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey...
Im Makenzie and Im 15!
Trust me I know how you feel!
things right Now are so crazy!
I cant handle it! Im so Over whelmed with life in genral!
Somtimes I feel like ot will neevr get better and things will always be depressing!

But it always gets better!
For me I feel empty!
My mom and i fight ALL the time!

Im sorry for al that you're going through....just know that theres others that feel the same way and were all here!
If you need anything.....or sumone to talk too email me

Hope you feel better soon!
makenzie
 
Hi Kenzie - same again with the e mail address - please put it in your control panel so then only healing well members have access to it thanks, vic

Post Edited By Moderator (Victoria) : 9/12/2006 2:21:35 AM (GMT-6)


shehurtsallova
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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 9/12/2006 5:40 AM (GMT -7)   
judyinky said...
Coming from the prespective of an over controlliing parent, and having been raised in a dysfuctional family, I can understand both sides. I have been in your shoes as a teenager, and have lived some of it with my chidren. As kim said, this is a very tough time in your life.. Sometimes My best efforts to give advice or help my children ( like I think I need to do things) end up in turmoil, frustration and anger ( and then usually, depression). They are all grown and live out on their on now. Recently my youngest daughter, 23, and I have gone through situations that I would never have dreamed of happening. I have tried to help, but I cannot stop myself from trying to interfere with her life. So I have stopped calling. I feel so much better. I'm sure she does too :-) I figure the two of us will get a chance to be together soon and I will guard my tounge, and try to remember that she has to live her own live, and I have a life of my own to live.

I guess I taught my daughter well. She cuts me off when I become overbearning and controlling. During these times, I seem to forget the things I have learned to take care of myserlf, my emotions, health, ect.. I guesss it's temporary insanity. Or at least I claim it. LOL. I'm still a work in progress and I make mistakes. Not working things out with my daughter would be a big mistake. I hope you can reslove things with your parents. I don't know if that is possible, but I hope it is.

IT sounds like your bf's mother is doing exactly what I have done. And she is really keeping you upset. Maybe she thinks she is acting out of love, I don't know. Just remember, you have choices as to how you re-act.

I have learned this if I have every learned anything in 54 years. YOU must take care of yourself!! If you do not know how, you will have to learn to do that to survive.


I hope you will take some of the others' advice and try to find someone to talk to that can be objective, maybe a therapist. I wish I had done that earlier in my life. You sound like a smart girl, frustrated at some cirmcumstances, but the fact that you have sought out this board for support and help says a lot about you!! You're working on yourself, looking for answers and options instead of accepting things the way they are. Just remember that things do not change overnight.

I hope you have a better day tomorrow and keep coming back.

Be Well,

Judy
.

Thank you for your kind words...I feel so much better than yesterday...but I know its still hangin ova my head....  But I talked to a couple people yesterday...And they got me through the day...its so crazy..I use to be the one who would give advice...and I was the one...who was just... the all-american...at muh school...everyone came to me for everything..I was in clubs..organizations..everyone loved me.. and as soon as I came out I guess it all went downhill..but my friends reassured it will all get better in due time! Thank you again!
-God knows I'll be ok, But do I believe it?


judyinky
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Date Joined Aug 2006
Total Posts : 254
   Posted 9/12/2006 8:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Change is difficult. College is very different from Highschool It sounds like you are a giver, and that you like being involved with people and doing things. The transition from High School must have been difficult. You were used to the friends you had, the clubs and organizations you were in, ect. I'm glad you are feeling better. I'll look to see if you have posted again.

Be Well,

Judy
"Hope is seldom found in the things we can see;
it is the sweet fragrance of grace."


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