Post Edited By Moderator (Victoria) : 9/12/2006 2:18:53 AM (GMT-6)
Hi Moving On -
I completely relate to your post. The last time I counted up the number of times I've moved over the past 10 years it was 17, four different states in one year! After becoming an expert mover, I've realized a few things.
Even though I thought that I had a sound explanation for each of the moves (i.e. awful roomate, controlling boss, dead-end job, etc.) the underlying reason kept following me around. I tend to bottle up what's bothering me until I reach a breaking point. Once, that breaking point is reached I feel as though nothing can be done to fix the situation, so I just pick up and move. To me, it's much easier to change my address than to confront people! Plus, I've gotten so good at being able to pack that I know exactly how to use any space to its fullest potential! I am only now working on ways to make sure I don't keep falling into this trap.
A fresh start does sound like an exiciting and promising idea, but I always seem to end up back where I started. Getting into a situation where I haven't articulated my needs and not getting those needs met. I mean people can't get read minds, but I seem to expect them too and I can't understand why they just don't treat me like I treat them! Crazy, eh?
Anyways, I'm not sure if you're looking for a bit of advice or not, but what I find works best for me is to stop and really appreciate all of the wonderful things I already have. And I'm talking about comparing my standard of living to the rest of the world. One of the conversations that has really stuck with me is one that I had with a former roommate of mine a couple of years ago. We were talking about a trip she had taken to Nepal. The daily struggle and harsh conditions they live in, and yet they all had smiles on their faces. It seemed as though they were insulated from mental pain by the close knit community they lived in. Perhaps we are using part of what they have known for so long right here on this board. Those in need of guidance and advice seek, those who understand listen and offer support, and those precious few offer a wisdom of truth for us all to savor.
Atta girl, Victoria! We all need a change of scene from time to time; and it is important to recognize when we are running TO vs running FROM.
Several posts in this thread have used the word 'excitement.' Perhaps that's what it takes to get our adrenals past the depression and activated toward a goal. It's certainly impossible for me to get excited about the day to day drudgery - but when something new and/or interesting comes along, the fog lifts. Isn't that what "get a life" means?
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When ever I moved my problems followed me.
Mental illnes moves where you move.
Post Edited (H8NLIFE) : 10/8/2006 2:34:13 PM (GMT-6)