Hey Rianna -
I understand how you feel. Weekends are always much more difficult for me to get through than Mondays through Fridays. It seems as though when I get back to work on Monday mornings and my bosses ask me how my weekend was - I can never find anything to share. I hardly get out of the house and when I do it's only to come to the library and use the computer to talk with you all. Makes my life pretty boring compared to all of the get togethers and school functions that my bosses and co-workers have going on. :(
I also feel very lonely on Friday and Saturday nights. At my last job, several of my former co-workers would go out for a beer or get together for dinner after work on Fridays. But, even though I work with more people now, there are fewer folks to hang out with, since my new co-workers are all attached and have lots going on in their lives. It makes my life feel very empty.
I'm not sure what the answer here is Rianna. I have signed up for a TGIF Yoga class that's held on Friday evenings, so that will get me out of the house at least one night and I'm trying to find more friends. But, lately it seems like the harder I try the more desparate I come off... I hope you find a way to enjoy your Sunday evening, even if it is staying in and playing solitare! :)
BTW, are you seeing a therapist? I've found a great great one, so it's helped being able to talk to someone else about whatever is troubling me.
I'm 20 years older than you, married, with family near by, and I am still so overcome by your post that it is hard to respond. I totally identify with your situation all the time, not just on weekends. Actually, for me, weekends are sometimes better, with a chance to spend time with kids and/or grands.
A partial solution is finding individual pleasures. Like you, solitaire is a lifesaver - too bad we can't take our skill to Vegas, lol. Other hobbies ie: refinish a piece of furniture, sew, read, build a doll house, help time to pass, but provide no human contact. Church activities would be great if I'd go. Still ... it's all to easy to get into the 'why bother?' mindset. Being a hermit is no fun!
Gosh, I could have written your post. I'm 43, live alone with my two cats, and don't date. I am not happy at all with my job right now but I am putting off looking for a new one until next year. My two best friends have moved away and I do not like my co-workers enough to socialize with them. I think the idea of a yoga class on the weekend would be good. I can't afford exercise classes but I am trying to get started again with a yoga video I have. If you get along with older people you may see if there is a senior center where you could play backgammon and such with them to pass the time. I read a lot. I also have crohn's disease and I am thinking of going to the local support group for it.
Are you comfortable going out by yourself? I have done lots by myself. I've been to a concert, and a NASCAR pole night that I won tickets to but couldn't find anyone to go with me so I went alone. Two weeks ago I went to an arts and crafts fair. I also go to the movies by myself. It gets me out of the house some even if I am not communicating with other people. I hope you are feeling better soon.
I've often felt that there needed to be more community in our neighborhoods. I mean sure we have the YMAC and other such organizations for families and youths, but there seems to be a lack of organized things for people in their 30's, 40's, and 50's, we seem to be forgotten, since most folks our age are married and have kids. They're involved with the PTA and their kids stuff, but there isn't anything for folks who have either opted out of that route or just haven't found someone who they want to spend the majority of their time with. I guess I've always sort of wondered why there isn't some sort of club or place dedicated to those of us who need something like that... Especially, since they are senior citizen centers for older folks.
And, since the weekend is here, I do hope you find one thing that you'd like to do and follow through on it! :)