ElishaCo~Mod: DepressionModerator: Heart & Cardiovascular Diseasehttp://www.healingwell.com/donate
Wow Sadsong that is a terrible situation. It sounds like she knows she has a problem with self control and most likely thinks no one can do things as well as she. Maybe the next time she yells at you try saying something like "dont yell at me" or "there is no need for you to yell at me" calmly, instead of explaining yourself. Not that you did wrong but maybe if you just once put her in her place she will back off and think twice before jumping on you like that. Does she treat anyone else like that?
It does make sense about projecting some of your feeling from your mom to your boss...maybe the personalities or control issues are the same?....I dont know. You took a trip and got some self confidence from that, right?...now perhaps maybe look into something that will give you inner strength and self confidence. Like maybe a self defense course?...you can talk to your therapist about it and see what kind of things are available in your area for you like that. I dont have many ideas as I live in rural area and there are not many options here and I am having brain fog this am..lol!
I am glad you had a good drive looking at the leaves. Ours are turning too but slowly as we havent had any rain. I have noticed that we are swamped with butterflies...they are everywhere and soooo beautiful!
I hope you have a wonderful and peaceful Monday...Hugs
Sadsong, I totally get that Bambi in the headlights feeling when a boss yells at you. I am so amazed that anyone would do that that my brain goes to mush. I am working for someone now who has a tendency to yell when he gets stressed. During the first few days I worked for him I worked into a conversation an experience that happened at another job when an employee was yelled at and how unacceptable I thought it was. I have been here a year now and he yelled at me once. I backed him down with facts (I didn't yell back at him) and he totally got it.
If you boss has acknowledged that she has a problem it is a great opening for you to tell you that you have a few things that you need to say and you need her to listen to all of it. Then don't leave until you have finished. Els gave you great advice and I know you can do it.