Hi Els -
Thanks so much for your response. Yes, it is the same boss that I've had problems with in the past. The thing is the last time we sat down to discuss stuff, I never got a chance to go through my list of concerns. My boss just apologized a bunch and acknowledged that she had a problem with control and said that if I ever wanted to talk some more all I needed to do was ask... I mean she didn't say she would try to be less controlling, she just told me that I was doing a great job.
I'd really like to be a stronger more confident person around her, but for whatever reason I've become this scared little girl that just gets beat up whenever I try to speak up to her. (The same kind of feelings I get when I try to stand up to my mom.) And I have no idea if her boss notices this, since he is a very hands-off kind of guy. While, she's been in her position for the past 15 years and no one in the department can seem to work very long with her. (I think the longest person who has worked directly with her is my other boss and he's only been in his position for the past 3 years or so. And a 1 1/2 years of those he was on leave.) I think she does has some OCD tendencies, but i don't think she would very acknowledge that.
I guess I am just in complete and utter amazement when she starts yelling at me. I mean we all work in a very small space and everyone can hear each other's phone conversations much less yelling. Just the other day while I was tacking a poster onto an old poster board for my other boss, she says "You can't use that!" I mean there are a ton a other ways to deal with a situation rather than treating me like a child and all I could respond with was, I'm not taping anything directly onto this one, I've covered up the display with paper and I'm attaching the poster onto the paper, rather than what's already on the poster board. And ya know what she just continues on her rampage with "I need that for this weekend." And come to find out she doesn't need it for this weekend, but the following weekend, but never even apologized.
On a positive note, I went for a drive in the mountains to go leaf peeping. The colors are absolutely spectatular! I swear even though it was raining the colors were even more vibrant! :)