Amen, Sunshine! Well said...
First responsibility is to Self. Can't help or 'fix' anybody else; that's something he will have to come to himself. There is no excuse for bad manners or bad behavior - or abuse...
ElishaCo~Mod: DepressionModerator: Heart & Cardiovascular Diseasehttp://www.healingwell.com/donate
I understand that you don't want to move out, seperate, or divorce. I understand that you don't want to abandon your husband when he is mentally ill, any more than you would if he had been in an automobile accident. I understand that you love him and want your old life back with him.
Well ... things have changed.
If you want to truly help, you have to rise to the challenge, become proactive first on your own behalf and then on his behalf. With accurate diagnosis, proper medications, indepth therapy, and, most of all, his own motivation; it is entirely possible for the two of you to have a future together.
That's down the road, it's a maybe not a definite .. for you to accept his recent behavior will delay a good outcome. You can't love him into wellness, you can't passively tolerate his rage, and you absolutely cannot bring him back by yourself. Get Help.