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Sunshine Superman
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   Posted 10/2/2006 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Still waiting for the effects proper of the new antidepressant to kick in - see earlier post - but did manage by a firm effort of will an hour ago, to finally do something I'd put off for a couple of weeks and God!! what a feeling of achievement and accomplishment it has given me!!
 
Half or three quarters of an hours' labour in the back garden - weeding out the dead summer flowers, stirring up the soil and compost, and putting daffodil bulbs in for the New Year when they'll flower!
 
My back garden is flat, with gravel down and big and small pots and tubs. Great looking garden - I have garden furniture out there - with the minimum of effort to maintain.
 
Anyhow I do feel so much better at having accomplished something however trivial. I think that I'll be doing similar small achievable tasks like this for the rest of the week. Unless I get dazed and tired again.
 
I'm now indoors again (obviously!) on the computer and listening to a Dr Who adventure on CD. And with the ubiquitous mug of coffee. Well you know it makes sense! yeah
 
SS
'Consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds' - Emerson


wmnak
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   Posted 10/2/2006 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Congrats, SS!  Not only an achieved goal, put outside in fresh air to boot ... and a productive planting of next year's blooms.
Movin' rite along.   :-)

Suzy35
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   Posted 10/2/2006 9:54 AM (GMT -7)   
That's great! I'm sure it looks good and will look so wonderful in the spring!!!!

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   Posted 10/2/2006 10:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow! Way to go Sunshine Superman, Terrific. I just think you'll have a great looking garden yeah

Sunshine Superman
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   Posted 10/3/2006 6:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Chartreux said...
Wow! Way to go Sunshine Superman, Terrific. I just think you'll have a great looking garden eyes
 
SS (Den) x


Tuesday's task was to clean the bathroom floor thoroughly and in all the corners too.. not as easy as it sounds... get some washing/drying done too.
 
All done. :-)
'Consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds' - Emerson

Post Edited (Sunshine Superman) : 10/4/2006 8:03:48 AM (GMT-6)


Joan M
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   Posted 10/3/2006 1:01 PM (GMT -7)   
I think we (the depressed) do not give ourselves enough credit for stuff. It is really hard to move along sometimes and yet we continue to struggle. Your garden sounds beautiful. CONGRATULATIONS

Sunshine Superman
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   Posted 10/4/2006 7:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Today's tasks were to clean the front and back windows. Glad that my flat is ground floor, I wouldn't want to go up ladders.

View looks better through clean and not dirty windows. Well done me!

SS
'Consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds' - Emerson


slowlygoingcrazy
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   Posted 10/4/2006 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Good going. I know I feel better when I've accomplished something I've put off because of fatigue, so way to go and keep going, your house will be spotless in no time!!!!

P.S. (In response to your post to mine) If it comes to a separation, I'll kick my husband out before I'll leave. He at least has somewhere to go!!! But thanks for your concern for me. I refuse to uproot my children anymore than would be necessary if it came to those circumstances - my son especially. It's just a very difficult decision to make..... Especially when there are children involved.... My preference would still be to find a way to make it work. It did before. Having a place to vent helps though.... But we'll see what happens....

You mentioned in one of your posts to mine that you like to write - what do you write?
 It would be easier to tell people I have cancer than it is to tell them I am severely depressed.....


Nicky (coquitlam55)
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   Posted 10/4/2006 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow, SS, good going on your achievements this week. I am familiar with how difficult it can be getting things done each day.

Nicky
 
I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside. 
                 --Wayne Dyer


Joan M
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   Posted 10/4/2006 5:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I also have too much familiarity with having problems getting things done each day. I have a number of "almost finished" projects in my place. It is so hard to FINISH ANYTHING! I did swim for one hour today, watered plants, straightened up and volunteered for a few hours and did some shopping so I am doing ok, almost finished something too! I guess I feel like I must climb Mount Everest everyday and compare myself to others, blah, blah, blah. I will log in soon and say that all my projects are UNDER CONTROL, I hope.

els
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   Posted 10/6/2006 9:57 AM (GMT -7)   

I too have a difficult time with putting things off and finishing tasks.  Which actually is quite funny as I am somewhat OCD about things.  Depression and the combination of my physicial illnesses I think are what do me in the greatest.

Great job SS on pushing forward and completing your tasks!


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Joan M
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   Posted 10/6/2006 1:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, I got one task finished yesterday! I also did wash and attended two lectures. Today I handled paper work and volunteered and went to the doctor's office. I hope to finish another almost project this weekend. I am very tired from asthma, allergies and arthritic pain.
 
I notice I am down on myself a lot.  Either I have not done enough, or I am not doing it properly or I am a complete mess.  I actually get upset with myself for getting upset.  HOW NUTS IS THAT?

wmnak
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   Posted 10/6/2006 10:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Sunshine Superman said...
I do feel so much better at having accomplished something however trivial. 
I've thought about this sentence ever since you first posted it, and have to take issue with the word 'trivial.'  Not so...    A productive hour is a productive hour.  Whether it is physical like gardening or window washing, or mental like paperwork or mail, it is an accomplishment; a well spent hour.
 
Sometimes just the size of a project is overwhelming - easier to accomplish when chunked down into manageable pieces.  Easier to weed/till/plant a reasonable sized flower bed than to landscape the garden.  It is so important to give ourselves permission to work on achieving pieces of a goal without the pressure of finishing the entire thing in one go.
 
There are times all my husband can actually accomplish in a day is unloading the dishwasher once ... oh well ... that 10 minute job is a plus, an achievement; not trivial.  Some days he doesn't do that much - other days he is productive for several hours.  Any sense of accomplishment and personal satisfaction is a step forward toward meeting Life's challenges.
 
It's also important to distinguish between the tasks required for day to day maintainence and the need to's or want to's that are major projects.  When life is tough, maintainence itself may be the most we can manage - and that only in 10 minute segments.  Never fail to give yourself credit for those minutes.
 
I bought a large pre-stamped quilt once; thought how simple it would be to embroider and how gorgeous it would be when finished ... couldn't do it ... finally sold it and all the embroidery thread at a yard sale.  Several years later I thought I'd try again (knew myself better) and bought 54, 18 inch, pre cut and pre stamped quilt blocks - and one by one they are getting done - stress free.  There's a great deal of satisfaction every time I add one to the finished stack ... it's gonna be gorgeous!
 
Take the pressure off yourself.  Give yourself a high five and an Atta girl/guy .. feel good.  Every step forward counts.  Nothing positive is trivial.
Amen.  End of sermon, lol.  :-)

Joan M
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   Posted 10/8/2006 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   
That was so good wmnak...somedays we are only able to do the basics and that's ok.  I did some work on another big project yesterday and today I did grocery shopping and went to Church.  Now I will spend the evening cutting up fruit and veggies which is a very meaningful task and very important for my overall health.
 
I am sure your quilt is gorgeous and so is sunshine's garden. I am very proud of both of you.

Joan M
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   Posted 10/9/2006 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I did cook up a storm last night with goulash and home made applesauce all ready to consume. Finally finished two more tasks. Now I only have one to go but my place is a mess and I need to tend to that!!!!!!!!!!!!

wmnak
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   Posted 10/9/2006 9:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Joan M said...
my place is a mess and I need to tend to that!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
LOL, Joan .. I can certainly identify with that!  I'm just starting a new mess - going to buy stripper this morning to refinish a chair.  Messy and smelly, too.  Hope to be all done before next weekend and have things back to "normal" with newly upholstered chair in place. 
Homemade applesauce?  Wow ... make mine 'no sugar added.'
:-)  

Joan M
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   Posted 10/11/2006 5:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I never put sugar in mine and I use plain water. I also wash the apples and do not peel there. It is healthy but not good for the average American palate...therefore I very rarely offer it to others.

Joan M
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   Posted 10/18/2006 5:14 PM (GMT -7)   
For me it is important to feel like "I am doing something with my life". Today I worked on manuscript, did a little cooking and am doing some wash. I am very achievement oriented and perhaps a little too hard on myself at times. Does anybody else feel this way?

slowlygoingcrazy
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   Posted 10/18/2006 5:57 PM (GMT -7)   
yep totally. Today despite a TMJ headache I had a reasonably good day at work, accomplished a fair bit. I've been doing well with putting good meals on the table this week. And on Monday, I ripped out my garden so I can start fresh. So yeah, accomplishing a few things does help with the feel good feelings....
 It would be easier to tell people I have cancer than it is to tell them I am severely depressed.....


Joan M
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   Posted 10/20/2006 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I hear you slowlygoingcrazy but sometimes I think I go a little overboard. For instance I have been published in over 100 literary magazines but I press forward sending my work out. I believe in my work but sometimes getting the rejections upsets me a lot. Why can't I focus on the good instead of forcusing on the bad? For instance my health insurance company has been driving me nuts and I am SO FOCUSED on that. Why aren't I focused on my landlord, my volunteer stuff, my car is operating ok, my computer is ok, etc., etc.

O well just thoughts...PEACE ON

wmnak
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   Posted 10/20/2006 10:40 PM (GMT -7)   

I think I understand, Joan.  Somehow, somewhere along the line, some of us become designated as "fixers."  And we buy into that, accept the responsibility, and go about the rest of our lives noting the things that are out of whack and setting about to fix them - put them right - take care of it - tend to business.

My dad didn't abuse my mom when I was present, so I learned very early that my job was to AlWays be there, to protect.  My husband couldn't get along with his birth family, so I was the designated intermediary.  The garbage disposal quits and nobody volunteers to check it, so it's my hand down in there with the gunk and blades; or it's me, upside down and backwards, under the sink looking for the reset button.  etc, etc, etc

I'm not sure this is an appropriate response about the ability to focus on the good stuff, but I do know that when something needs attention, there are those of us who respond - and there is enough bad stuff out there ... we don't get around to the good.  We are consumed.  Swallowed up.  Drowning.  And nobody even notices.  We see the hurts, the inadequacies, the problems, the injustice, and dive in to make things better.  Doesn't mean we don't appreciate the good outcomes, just means we're busy tending to things that othes don't want to, can't, or refuse. 

Eventually we get tired, then depressed.  How do we unlearn one role and learn a new one?  How do we focus on the nice things while other things simmer and boil?  Danged if I know! 


Sunshine Superman
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   Posted 10/22/2006 10:37 AM (GMT -7)   
slowlygoingcrazy said...
yep totally. Today despite a TMJ headache I had a reasonably good day at work, accomplished a fair bit. I've been doing well with putting good meals on the table this week. And on Monday, I ripped out my garden so I can start fresh. So yeah, accomplishing a few things does help with the feel good feelings....

TOLD YOU SO!! yeah
 
As for me, still off work until at least 31st October and on another medication since the Citalopran only gave me fading eyesight and panic attacks and every man's worst nightmare in the three weeks that I took it.. almost as bad as Kryptonite to me.. skull
 
SS (Den) x
'Consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds' - Emerson

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