i dont know what this is..

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Date Joined Oct 2006
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   Posted 10/15/2006 4:30 PM (GMT -6)   
first off, i'm glad i found this place; i've read many posts within the past hour before i decided to join and i think i can really feel comfortable here ;) everyone here is so helpful and supportive...

well im 19 years old and this certain thing that happens to me has been happening to me eversince i was younger - say around 8 years old - and still occurs. well once in a great while this feeling would come to me as if i'm the only person in the world and i'm ALONE.. that i dont belong (within my family, my friends, the world).. detached.. up in the air with no direction.. as if i'm in a hole and i'm falling deeper into it forever.. that i have no one in this world.. that everything else shines around me but myself... it can be so scary of a feeling, and it lasts for maybe a minute or two, but my goodness, thats a scary couple of minutes. and this feeling comes to me out of nowhere and i dont know what conjures it. it can come to me when i'm with a bunch of people too; i'll stare out for a bit then come back to reality and feel a bit disoriented and uncomfortable but get back on track again, though feel a bit weird for the rest of the day.... what is this?! does anyone have a feeling like this as well? sometimes it lasts for a longer period of time and i just cry and mope and feel so alone.

anyone heard of/been through anything like this??

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   Posted 10/15/2006 4:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello L,
Have you ever talked to a counselor about what you are experiencing? I am concerned for your about the fact that it sometimes happens for a longer period of time. You are young and should talk to a psychologist about this. If it is something organic then working with you early will be extremely important. If it is a coping style, then talk therapy will help you to discover that it really doesn't just "come out of nowhere" and how to manage/cope with this style and ultimately change it. Our minds and emotions are so complex. You are doing the right thing to question what you are feeling. The fact that you are aware of this shows that you are a very aware and bright young person. I would recommend start ing with a psychologist and going from there. BTW, you are not alone. My ex-husband told me that he didn't feel like he belonged to his family. He also shared that he only wanted to associate with intellectual people. He told me that he felt like it was "a dream" when we were falling in love and he suffered from social anxiety disorder. He was 39 yrs. old and left our marriage after only 4 months. Immediately after marriage he began to "detach." He told me that he had "ADD" and people with ADD don't like to be touched. In hindsight, I can see that something was very wrong with him but he nor I knew what it was. You, on the other hand are very young and can and must look into this so that you can live a fulfilling life. A couple of questions for you. 1) Do you know what you are feeling during the times that this is "not" happening? 2) Can you feel empathy and emotion for others?
I hope others on here have actually experienced this and can share with you their journey to healing.

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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 10/16/2006 1:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I don't know what is wrong with you. I am very glad you have found this site though. WELCOME!!
I am not a therapist, or a professional, but have had some training, and lots of experience in Mental Health issues, mine and others. I can only offer you my experience and information. I do agree that seeing a counselour would be a good idea, it that is something you can do. Since you have been having these thoughts and feelings for so many years you could have a psychiatric disorder, or simply deep insecurity that could be helped with talk therapy. Either way, it is bothering you or you would not have written here.

I want to ask you a few quesions. Maybe by answering them someone who reads this can identify with it. I can remember feeling some of those feelings of insecurity when I was very young. It seems like a dream now, but I would wonder (what am I doing here)? (What is this world all about )? I was very young at that time, growing up in a dysfunctional home with lots of insecurity.

Do you feel disassociated from reality at these times? How often does it happen? If you could rate how desperate you feel during these times from 1-10, what would it be? What kind of childhood did you have? Tell us as much as you can about yourself.

This is a good support group. The people here will help and encourage you. I hope you will get an appointment with a therapist to start to explore the things you wrote about.

Please keep in touch.

"Hope is seldom found in the things we can see;it is the sweet fragrance of grace."



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   Posted 10/16/2006 11:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi LifeGoesOn, We are happy to have you join us here.  This is a most supportive environment and everyone who posts here are always willing to help and offer advice/suggestions.
What you described does indeed sound like some sort of Disassociative Disorder.  There can be many differant reasons for this to happen or occur.  I like the others who have posted do recommend that you seek professional help for this. 
Please feel free to continue to post we look forward to hearing more from you... :-)

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   Posted 10/20/2006 1:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi again.  I don't have these feelings but here is a site to explore:
Come back and talk to people on Healing Well and check out the Anxiety forum too.
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