ElishaCo~Mod: DepressionModerator: Heart & Cardiovascular Diseasehttp://www.healingwell.com/donate
Thank you Shy...Your too sweet
I am still going to get that dog though...LOL!
Hi Stronglady, Thank you so much for your kind words. It has made a big differance already in me and in my mom having my brother and is kids back into our lives. It is like a big hole has been closed. I have been very sick the last year and it was difficult to go through without him...we all are very hard headed and never want to admit when we are wrong. So for me to call him that day and have the strength to do so I think had to only come from God. I know that he wouldnt of and mom wouldnt of so...it was up to me to do. Kiley (the baby) is doing great and they are hoping she will be able to move from the ICU next week sometime. She is also a little miracle baby.
With my ex husband it was hard, I had been with him since I was 19 and didnt know anyone else. I still have mixed feelings on it all but I know that the divorce was the right decision and I made a terrible mistake in marrying him (I will only admit here that my mom was right in that ). My last e-mail to him I really wanted to blast him...ya know? but I think I did okay with telling him that it was time that we moved on with our lives and we couldnt do that by e-mailing each other all the time. I wished him and his future wife all the best (just so he knew that I knew) and left it at that. I did block his address from e-mail but I have to admit there hasnt been a day yet that I havent been tempted to unblock it just to see what he has to say...that is pathetic isnt it? I am going to try not to do that though because he has twisted me up for so many years that I do need to move on and I cant as long as he is still in my life no matter how small and indirect it may be. Your right...he wasnt worth the stress and heartache by far...
Hey Joan, Personally...and this is only my opinion, I dont feel that women need men to take care of them or "support them financially". We as women have came a long way from the 1900's and granted the female race as a whole may not be equal to men on a financial basis and employment basis however, we do as individuals make our own choices and career paths.
In my case, I was more educated than my husband. I had a 4 yr college degree and he didnt yet, he made more money then I did by far. But I went into the mental health field which does pay much and he worked with computers which pays pretty well. We lived together for years before getting married and our money was always kept seperate so when we married this just continued. He didnt feel the need to support me...even when I became sick and was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis a year into our marriage. My medical bills piled up and he continued to spend all his money on gadges and toys just like he always did. The money was always an issue but I can say now that it is all over that the emotional seperation, lack of care and concern that he had for me was what did our marriage in. We all make our choices in life regarding relationships, employment and education....I guess I am just trying to say that there is nothing holding anyone back or down. Our options are limitless and our own....
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