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rainey
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   Posted 1/1/2007 5:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi:
 
Just got home from the hospital, after 3 days.  I have a broken leg, 2 broken ribs and a head concusion.
My body is so black and blue, I hurt all over.  I feel like a truck hit me.  I'm in so much pain, I can hardly move.  My head hurts me so bad. 
 
 

ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/1/2007 6:25 AM (GMT -7)   
OMG Rainey
What happened? What did you tell the doctors? Is he still in the house? Are your kids ok? Did they see it?
I am at a loss for words right now.
You need to get out,I mean get out NOW. Enough is enough. Call a family member. Hell call his dad. Tell them what happened. I am boiling inside right now..........
Please talk to us.
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Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 1/1/2007 6:28:11 AM (GMT-7)


1dayatatime
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   Posted 1/1/2007 11:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Rainey........I agree with Shy.......you must get away while you can. This man is very ill and there is nothing you can do to change him.

My prayers are with you.

God, Please Grant Me,

The Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The Courage to change the things that I can,

and The Wisdom to know the difference……….Just for Today

 

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wmnak
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   Posted 1/1/2007 12:41 PM (GMT -7)   
rainey,
 
i don't want to go off half-cocked.  freud said that sometines a cigar is just a cigar.  did you in fact hurt YOURSELF by falling, getting electrocuted, etc?  if so, you still have my sincerere good wishes for a safe and quick recovery.
 
on the other hand, if SOMEONE put you into the hospital, safe yourself and your children.  possessions can always be replaced (or not - at my age i'm into getting rid of them) but your mind, body, and spirit ar4e much more precious.
 
did you call the police?  what action, if any did they take?  have you been in touch with a shelterr?  sometimes they ae listed in the phone book, sometimes a minister can refer you.  also, tomorrow is a work day, get a restraining order against this other person.  it won't stop fists and kicks, but it will enable the legal system to do its thing (unfortunately, it isn't always very much).
 
rainey, i hurt for you.  my daughter was in an abusive marriage for almost 5 yrs before she broke out.  the scars aer healed over, but the scar tissue shown at times.
 
hope this helps.
 
warren
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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 1/1/2007 2:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Rainey, what did you tell the hospital? Did you tell them the TRUTH? We understand that you love this man and you are caught in the "battered womans syndrome" cycle of abuse but you must tell people the TRUTH now. The TRUTH will set you free. Where are you now? Are you back home with this monster? Take your broken body and your child and go to a battered womans shelter NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do you want your child to be left on this planet with this monster? If he loved his child, he would not do this to his childs Mother. Your child needs you. GO NOW. Pick up the phone and call someone. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!
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hollygo
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   Posted 1/1/2007 4:30 PM (GMT -7)   
rainey, your abusive relationship sounds like mine. i never thought i would be able to get away so my only hope was for him to kill me. unfortunately, he never went that far. then i found a shelter until i could move in to a trasitional home for battered women. i took my 10 year old and my 2 year old. was it an ideal situation for them? of course not! but it was ideal compared to staying with dad. he never touched the boys but my older one was scared for me. the transitional home ended up being a blessing because it showed my boys that i cared enough about them to get them out of that environment and though i didn't realize it at the time, i showed them i was strong enough to leave. i ended up being a good example to my kids out of a horrible situation. it's been 5 years now and we've never recieved child support because my ex has no idea where we are and i intend to keep it that way. we struggle financially and i have suffered from depression my entire life, but you know what? my boys know their mother is safe, they know i won't put up with abuse anymore and i trust that they learned a big lesson on how to treat women. please keep us posted, but if we don't hear from you for a while, i pray that it's because your in a shelter!

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   Posted 1/2/2007 6:25 AM (GMT -7)   
dear rainey, please give serious thought to the advice given to you here.  No one should ever be treated as you have been.  You do have a choice here...it may feel as if you dont but you do, you just have to take it.  Your strong enough and we believe in you...keep posting. We are here for you...

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wmnak
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   Posted 1/2/2007 9:45 AM (GMT -7)   
holly,
 
there aer ways around your ex finding you and still having him paychild support (which is his moral oblication).  have him pay 9it into the court.  th court thn pays you.  if he gets "late" with the child support, the court is in a position to take action.
 
this system is not fool-proof and differs from state to state andby locality to locality.  but it is something you could consider.  those children didn't just jump out of your head as if you were a roman goddess.  he particiated in their creation as much as you did.
 
just a suggestion fo ryou to consider.
 
warren
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Some day you'll learn that a good bm is better than sex.
 
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rainey
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   Posted 1/2/2007 11:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Real quick, I don't have alot of time.  My husband has made me a prisoner in my own home.  He has taken my keys away, ripped the phones right off the walls etc. etc.  I think he has forgotten about the cable modem that we have.  I barely used it because I used AOL with the phone lines.  He has also hired a live-in man baby sitter for me. I think it is so that he makes sure I don't go any where.  At this point and time I hurt so bad I don't think I could leave even If I had the chance to anyway.  sad sad   As soon as I can I will be making my exit.  I have to be very careful and diligent about how I go about it though.  The result of what has happened to me is because I was in the middle of packing to leave him and he walked in on me.  I need to heal and get some strength.

hollygo
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   Posted 1/2/2007 12:59 PM (GMT -7)   
every time i tried to leave, i got caught and beat for it. mine only destroyed one phone, but he would normally take the batteries out of the phone when he would leave. no live in sitter for me, but he always had people watching me. i figured that out when i took a walk with my baby to the apartments mailbow one day. my eyes were peeled and no sign of him, yet he knew exactly when i went outside and what i was wearing and how nervous i looked. one day, he left the battery in the phone and i took a terrifying moment and called the local sheriff's office. i asked if someone would come over and assist me in leaving safely. i let them know there was no time for lengthy details. we hung up, he came home & dialed *67. he obviously figured out i made a call and to whom, and started to beat me. the cops got there JUST in time! by the time he got out of jail, he had no idea where i was. i pray that you look for an opportunity like that and that it works out. keep in mind, it took me numerous attempts before i succeeded. if, God forbid you end up in the hospita again, you've got to tell someone the truth. i know they will seperate you two to confirm your "story". use that or any opportunity to get away. right now, that's all you have to do is get away. i know you feel weak honey, but there isn't a stronger woman out there than a battered woman. do you realize the strength it takes to endure and survive that? please keep posting. i can't get you off my mind.

hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 1/2/2007 7:20 PM (GMT -7)   
This man babysitter doesn't see what's going on here???  I am sickened by this.  I feel so bad for you.  Can you post your address and I will call the authorities for you?  Can you email your relatives to intervene?
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/3/2007 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Something is not right here...
Elisha? I am not feeling right about this at all...I am not sure why.
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els
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   Posted 1/3/2007 9:11 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with you Shy...let me see what I can do

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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 1/3/2007 9:34 AM (GMT -7)   
just this morning I woke up thinking about this and something didn't feel right.  Why wouldn't the hospital ask questions about the injuries?  Why did she not tell them what happened if she was packing to leave?  Why can she not email the relatives?  Why would a man babysitter allow someone to be locked up their own house?  It sounds like a horror movie!  I hope you can get somewhere with this one.
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/3/2007 11:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I know,I have had this on my mind day and night. Something is not right. The situation in itself is not right but I think there is more...
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1dayatatime
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   Posted 1/3/2007 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I know physicians and the hospitals are supossed to report domestic violence. Does anyone know his profession?

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/4/2007 4:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Els
Sis
there is something wrong here as YOU know ...........
If you are up to it email me or we will get on Yahoo or something
Emial me please
I need to talk to you
You are a great MOD and you will get thru this too ........
Luvs ya sis
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/4/2007 5:18 AM (GMT -7)   
She hasn't said his profession,we don't know alot of details.
I worry about the kids as well.
If he is beating her so severe to have caused a broken leg I can just imagine what he is doing to the kids.
A woman can only protect them so much. But,after reading back are we just assuming they have kids?
Maybe I need to go back into the posts further for hints.
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Violet*Valerie*Valella
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   Posted 1/5/2007 5:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Rainy? Is he abusing your kids too? :(
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