antidepressant or antianxiety

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woohoo
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   Posted 1/22/2007 8:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Seems when I don't have the emotional support I get deluged by the tidal waves of everyday stress, being a single mom raising three challenging children 24/7. As long as I see my therapist I feel supported and am able to cope with the never-ending stress. But for past few months I've not been seeing her due to not having the money to pay her. (Going to a clinic with a  sliding fee is not an option, as I've been to a few of their therapists in the past and they just don't have the skill I have found in my private-practice therapist.)
So I've been extremely irritable and nervous and the slightest movements or noise just set me off. But that's life with three growing kids, there's always someone fighting, or tired, or frustrated, and I am very reactive to that.  Poor kids, to have a mum who is nervous all the time, no longer has patience to sit and listen to them calmly, play games, etc.  I don't recognize the mum I have become. I curse all day, as every little thing sets me off.
For the sake of my kids I wanna get back to myself. Be the same old calm mum  I used to be, play games with them every day, laugh, listen to them, have patience for them, and not get ticked off by every little sound they make.
I want to ask my doc for a prescription medication, tho I'm not sure what to ask for. Do I ask for anti-depressant, or anti-anxiety?  The last time I felt this way, about four years ago, when I wasn't seeing my therapist for a while, the doc prescribed effexor but it did nothing for me. So I went to a psychiatrist who prescribed different anti-depressants along with anti-anxiety meds, but again I did not feel better. The meds that are supposed to calm me down make me tired, too tired to properly care for my kids. I experienced all the side effects, with no benefits. The psychiatrist told me to get off the meds. I went from one psychiatrist to another, they all tried their stuff on me, but nothing doing. When I went back into therapy and once again had the emotional support I felt a lot better and things improved.
So right now I can't financially afford therapy and therefore I'm looking for another way to cope with my nervousness and rage and irritability. I'm just not sure what kind of classification of meds helps with rage, irritability, no patience, etc.
Thanks all for your feedback.

els
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   Posted 1/23/2007 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi woohoo, I am so sorry for all your going through.  I dont know of the challenges it takes to raise children but I am sure it is extremely difficult when you are doing this alone.  I remember my mother trying to raise my brother and I with little money after her divorce and working 2 jobs to support us.  It was difficult and at times she did get very frustrated with us and the situation we were in.

I wonder if you could seek out a support group for single parents in your area?  Sometimes hospitals, churches and independent psychiatric clinics hold these types of groups with a small fee for attendance.  As for the medication issue I really think that is something that you need to address with your doctor.  From your post it almost seems that you have jumped from physician to physician which is not a good idea when your dealing with these type of issues.  If you have a psychiatrist that your seeing now speak to them regarding these feelings.  If you dont have one then I would suggest that you find one as they are the best type of doctors to be prescribing the type of medications that your inquiring about.  They are most knowledgeable regarding them and would be able to closely follow your regime and make changes should a problem arise.  When you start an antidepressant or even an antianxiety medication it is so important to communicate any problems with your doctor and work with them to ensure that you do get the desired results.  I know it is tough and often times you do end up feeling like crap for many weeks while trying to sort them out but in the end when you find the right combination it is worth it.  Depression is treatable you just have to hang in there.

I hope that you have found healing well a good resource for you and some sense of support.  Please know we are always here for you...


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woohoo
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   Posted 1/23/2007 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank You! Actually, I did remain with each doc for long enough, and communicated very frequently about the effects of the meds. It was actually the docs who switched meds real fast cuz the side effects were so bad for each one, so they figured they'll switch to different meds... There came a point when the doc herself had changed my meds so many times and my therapist concurred with me that i was simply better off without them. Right now my neuro put me on minimum dose of valium and elavil and I'm so exhausted I can't even take care of my kids, was too fatigued to put up dinner today or tidy up the house. So I call the doc and say what is happening and he says he has given me the smallest dose and if the fatigue is bothering me that much he can try a different medication, so I gotta go see him and this is deja vu for me, go from one medication to another and in the end the doc will say look, you're just better off without meds. They all make me so tired I can't take care of the kids. Any anti-anxiety seems to slow down the body and brings on fatigue.

els
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   Posted 1/24/2007 5:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for clearing that up it was uncertian how long you did stay with the docs... :-)    It is very hard on the body when you have doctors jumping from med to med so fast.  I take an antianxiety medication also Xanax and it makes me very tired and fatigued...often times I have to lay down and take a nap after taking it or cut my pill in half if I dont what to feel that effect.  Perhaps you are just really sensitive to these types of medications?  I was also on Elavil for a brief period of time but it didnt work out so well for me...allergic reaction.  So I cant relate too much in that area.  But I know that it can also cause some fatigue type symptoms for the first few weeks of taking it.   I really hope that you can find a combination of medication that is right for you.  Please do keep us updated and feel free to post here as often as you like :-)

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Sad & Angry
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   Posted 1/24/2007 9:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Woohoo, first and foremost I applaud you for your courage in taking care of your children and trying to take every effort to be there for the children as a single mum.
 
I went through this same thing a while back when my two children were small and I had to deal with anxiety and depression, and it was not easy being on medication and trying to cope with the side effects. Like you, I too had to deal with the tiredness, and meds were changed from time to time.
 
Onething is, that I know, is that this tiredness will be there with any med depending on how your body adjusts. I found after a while, some of these medication react differently.
 
I hope you will find the right med for yourself and hang in there. I know it's not easy being a mum, but now when I look back and see how my children have become teenagers, I feel I have done something right somewhere. To me being there for them was very important.
 
Hang in there yeah
 
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