Thanks, Shy and Christina, for writing back. Those are really good points, especially about cya. Why, oh why does it have to be that way?
I showed up again today and will take what you've said in mind, if I actually get to see my boss at all.
I can't tell you what a help it is to hear from you. I really appreciate it.
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I know this topic hands down from all sides. I've been overworked, overextended, and underappreciated. I've been on the verge of a meltdown so many times with multiple jobs in multiple fields, and of course, multiple kinds of bosses. I've found that the smartest way to cover your behind (and stay employed) is to go through the Health and Safety or Human Resources departments. Avoid going through your management chain, who can personally screw you over. I've found that using FLMA, the family leave act, can afford you the opportunity to take medically recommended leave, without any "penalty" to your work position/personnnel file. This is an excellent way to let off some of the pressure with minimal information reported back to your superior, and because it is a Federal Law, people don't tend to mess with it. Your job position cannot be "officially" negatively affected if you take FMLA. However, relationships with your boss and co-workers could change character, which means you should be careful when returning to work. It does not go on your personnel record as a negative, but the individuals that work with you might not see it this way. Avoid giving out any specifics, just say that you had some family matters to attend to.
Now WARREN, for you specifically, jump down off your cranky horse, and listen how this is applied to security clearance situations. The thing you need to understand is that any company requiring a security clearance of any level, inevitably start the employment first, have the security paperwork filled out, then may eventually have it processed. The security clearances are done through the Department of Defense, and cost the company a minimum of $5000. Thus, many companies get the paperwork filled out, but don't actually submit it for processing until weeks or months later, so they're not out the money in case you don't work out in the position. Also, if your are not working on a project requiring clearance, they can hold off still longer.
Once your paperwork is officially being processed by the FEDs, the key is not lying about anything. It's not that you can't be cleared on through with negative marks on your report, it is just CRITICAL that you don't omit anything or lie about something that can be checked out if the agents on the case are diligent. My ex-husband was a computer genius, but a horrible liar. He has serious mental and emotional issues, a lot due to having Aspberger's Syndrome, a form of Autism. However, he has never been officially diagnosed as such, so there is no documentation about it that can be evaluated. He just lies about almost everything. His paperwork is full of lies. No official has actually questioned outside sources about his information, so he's never been turned down. However, if anyone talked to me for a half hour, he'd never get another clearance, and would be pretty much out of business for life.