My sister needs help!

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Sue T.
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   Posted 3/4/2007 9:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi! I have a sister that is depressed but does not recieve help. Does anyone have advice on how I could get her to get help? I told my family that she has the symptoms of depression and they said I should speak to her since I am the closest to her. I told her that she is depressed. If I tell her to get help, I think she will get upset and our good relationship will be broken. She is expecting her fourth kid and I'm scared her situaton will get worse as life gets harder.

zinniagirl
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   Posted 3/4/2007 9:18 PM (GMT -7)   
How about quizzing her on my symptoms? I had an aunt who, years ago, sat me down and asked me a series of questions -- I think it was called the Beck Depression Inventory. She added up my score, which indicated that I was depressed. She then asked me, "So what do you think about that?" I got defensive at first and denied that I was depressed. As I kept trying to minimize my symptoms, she quietly said to me, "You know, there is nothing you could tell me about yourself that would make me love you any less." Maybe if you approach your sister non-confrontationally, you and she can understand why getting help for her depression is so frightening to her. I think once you understand that, the rest might fall into place, and your good relationship will be just fine.

ShynSassy
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   Posted 3/5/2007 6:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sue
Zinnagirl has given you excellent advice.
I think your sister is very lucky to have someone like you that cares about her enough to seek help for her.
I wish I would have had someone in my family spot my depression and call me on it. I think it would have saved alot of heartache for me.
I do not know what kind of relationship that your sister has with her husband,or what you have with him.But,if it is good I would also suggest talking to him about your worries over your sister.
I would tell her that you love her,and that you want her to be able to wake up in the morings and feel good about herself.

Good Luck!

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ican
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   Posted 3/5/2007 7:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sue T,
It is hard to stand back and watch someone you love go through depression. Unfortunately until they admit to the depression and want to be treated, the only thing you can truly do is to offer your support and let them know you are there for them. The rest is up to them. She does stand a chance of her depression getting worse due to post-partum depression which could compound the problem. Sometimes we have to make tough decisions and risk the relationship if what is best would be to confront her and get the help she need.
Ican

Sue T.
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   Posted 3/5/2007 9:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanx for the advice. Maybe I'll speak to my brother-in-law. I'm scared to tell her that she must get help because when people critisize her she gets upset. When a different sister pointed out to her that she was not responding to her kids needs the best way, my depressed sister complained to me after.

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   Posted 3/7/2007 5:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sue
Having a family "intervention" with your sister might help. I am not sure that pointing out that she is not responding to her kids the best way is the best answer though.
She is very sensitive right now,and really just needs to be told that she deserves to be happy again...


Good Luck

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