Post Edited (annbrampton) : 3/6/2007 11:27:41 AM (GMT-7)
Thank you for your reply...
Actually, he has seen a doctor before and he saw her again yesterday and she doubled up his head candy [as he would put it!] So yes, he is taking medication and he's very good about that, he's totally aware that he's down and very depressed...
Thanks for the tips, it's really hard to talk anything online with him since he's there but he's really not. Last night he didn't even remember the few lines we talked earlier in the afternoon so yes, it's tough sometimes.
I think i'm scared about talking to him about the future because I feel that the fact that we're so far from each other sometimes just adds to his stress and the fact that he has to think about how to make it work just depresses him more... but i will try to e-mail him more and just tell him how much i care for him and hope he gets better... I think he feels very guilty too for "dragging" me into this, but i sure don't think about it that way... think i'll tell him that too, thankyou!
I have been reading a lot about depression online and of course, i'm here learning more and more each day, jsut to be able to get a better understanding of what he's going through... he knows it too... i told him i've been doing that.
Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it!
Thanks for the advice on the books, it's hard to find any kind of book here in Costa Rica but i'll see if i can find them on Amazon and have them send down...
Actually... u hit a very sore spot there, he's totally affected by the winter in Canada... he's so much better when i'ts nice and sunny outside. Here in Costa Rica he was a totally different person and i'm sure the weather had a lot to do with it, he actually told me that once too. We do sometimes talk about him moving down here, which is probably the best idea yet... but i'm just so scared that he'll think that i'm suggesting it out of selfishness or my own personal interest, so it's hard to talk about. I'm pretty sure things would change a lot for him once he's here again but how do I go around telling him u know?
At the moment he has decided to quit school and just get a job and i think it's wonderful, will help him get back on track. I try to talk to him about moving here and i'm even trying to see if my family business will get him a job but we'll just see what happens next...
Today's been positive for him actually, he's been cheery and chatty... so i'm happy with that!
Thanks for the advice!!