I hear your heart, as my hubby of almost 21 yrs suffers from depression too. One of the best things I've done for myself is to get into some type of therapy. Talking to someone about how you are feeling helps to but things into perspective.
there is a support board for people with depressed spouses or sig/others called depression fallout. You might want to check that out.
I know exactly how you feel. Educate yourself about this disease, and once you realize that your hubby isn't doing this on purpose helps. That doesn't mean that you have to put up with abuse of any kind. Learn about boundaries and how to put them in place. Helped me tremendously.
My hubby went to bed Fri night at 11pm and got up this morning[Sunday]. At least he made it thru the week and didn't miss work. I used to get upset about this when he would sleep forever, but now I know that when things get so bad its the only way he can cope, and he isn't doing it to hurt us.
Hang on sister! You can do it!
dx: fibromyalgia, IBS-C,Myofacial Pain Syndrome, Chronic Headaches, hypothyroidism,anemia, insomnia,mild depression.
Clonazapam .25mgs, Oxy IR 2.5-3xs/day 5 mgs at bedtime, Synthroid, Zopiclone, flexeril or baclafen, L-tryptophan
Supplements: Licorcise extract, Seriphos, professional vit/mineral, magnesium/malic acid, B#5, probiotic, Ester C, P5P[B6 supplement]
Daughter Jerica 17, Dx: Crohn's, Imuran 150 mgs, amitriptyline 20mgs, lactaid pills, calcium 1000 mgs/day. Forvia, waiting for first Remicade infusion
Husband with treatment resistant depression Effexor-900mgs