Hi Foreigner, I also wanted to welcome you to healing well, we are so happy to have you join us here. It really sounds like you are in a isolative place both physically and emotionally. I can understand when you feel cut off from everything and everyone how lonely that feels and how hard it is to try to find the positives in life. Your reaching out here is wonderful as there are so many supportive people that are always willing to help and just be there for you.
I once was married and had difficulty talking to my husband who was very dominate in our relationship. He also had a tendency to call me names as you mentioned in your post. Over time this kind of treatment wears you down and tears away your self esteem; make no mistake about it this is abusive treatment. For me I just gave up on my relationship with my husband, there were many other factors involved but I basically walked out and we divorced. What I would suggest for you is that you calmly sit down and try to talk to your husband about these things and how it makes you feel. Communication in a relationship is extremely important and once those lines have started to break down it is so difficult to get them back. He is your partner and should be helping you not working against you. As for the other things Shy has given you some really good suggestions in her post to you. And I am sure other members will be along to post also...hang in there and know we are always here for you. Take care
ElishaCo~Mod: DepressionModerator: Heart & Cardiovascular Diseasehttp://www.healingwell.com/donate
Post Edited (foreigner) : 3/22/2007 5:57:27 AM (GMT-6)