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I would struggle to come up with many things that I am looking forward to in the next 12 months. I try not to let to bother me though. If your a baseball fan, perhaps you could go out and play baseball with some friends or perhaps join a club? Watch the games on the TV (or as Els suggested, maybe going to them live) and look for ways to improve your game as well. As for retirement, thats 53 years away for me (assuming the government dont change the law AGAIN!). But there are still so many things you can pack into 15 years. I love the idea of a cruise (Thanks jordaNZone). Perhaps you could climb a mountain (I suppose it depends where you live, I live about 10 miles from a mountain) learn a new skill (A musical instrument or a language). Actually a language would be great because as well as looking forward to mastery of your new skill, you can look forward to a holiday where they speak your new langauge. Plus, you get the confidence from going to a country and communicating in their language! The possibilities are endless!!!
Well tase I guess some of us are sent bigger challenges in life than others..you are a remarkable human being..thanx for sharing your story..I feel honoured and by the way you are not a 'bad guy'!
Wondering about the home theatre..and remembering I dont do tech stuff...but is it possible to set up two sets of haedphones..each with their own volume switch lol..hmmm.. maybe that would defeat the purpose of surround sound...oh well no doubt you will tell me lol.
Thanks jordaNZoneI woke up this morning and was thinking about deleting my last post since nobody had replied to.
As with marriage, I suppose, yesterday was a pretty good day. All or many of those things are still true, we really still don't share a whole lot in common, and there were many moments of silence.
I can see to boredom on her face. I hear her sighs of discontent, but we plugged on through.
You will be happy to know, that after staring at the box almost all day, at around 8PM I decided to tackle the home theater. I was shaking. Geez, this is supposed to be my happy hobby. but anxiety was crazy. Anyway I plugged through, anxiety slowly crept away, although I was still a bit shaky.
I had determine that while this system can do pretty much everything but clean your house, if set up to its capacity, I would hook it up in the simplest way at least to get it in there and fine tune later. I DID IT. It works and everything.
I will try and play more today, but it is my MIL birthday, so big feast at her house. Oh darn.
We have toyed with the headphone idea for quite sometime, and we both embrace it. The major roadblock is that we need something that actually has a left and right volume controls or at minimum, a balance control to putt all the sound towards her left side.
I was very close to try TVEars. WE might still try, but reviews are sketchy.
Anyway I best be going.
The withdrawal effects and the cold symptoms seem to be dissipating. I am not going to do a dance until I am sure all effexor is out of my system, but I am hopeful.
you are a remarkable human being..thanx for sharing your story..I feel honoured and by the way you are not a 'bad guy'!
I am just curious as to what sparked those remarks. If it was meant as kind of a morale booster, it worked , but I don't see a lot of "remarkable" in there.
Too be continued.
tase, I am glad you installed your surround sound despite all the anxiety, working through it is sometimes the hardest thing to do. But you did it and you should be very proud!!!
As for the relationship stuff...well, it is difficult when you have one person in the household who has depression. Often times the spouse is that person's support system and if their mental health isnt well maintained things can break down over long periods of time. I can understand where you would have a lot of guilt if you left your marriage, not only financially for her but, emotionally as well. You have described though some discontent that you perceive with her? I wonder if you have actually just sat down and discussed all these things with her? Maybe that would break some of the tension you feel in your house...hopefully.
Please keep us posted on how things are...and by the way, I too think your remarkable! You just seem to be such a nice guy
Tase, so glad you set up your home theatre..see I was right you are 'remarkable' lol
I meant that you are a remarkable person in the sense that you have stood by and supported your wife thru all her troubled times over the years..then just to top things off you have suffered depression yourself and survived that too..sheesh that's quite an ask for anyone!
So, what's the next challenge in your life?
Tase..I don't know anything about your probs u mention and don't feel I can even begin to comment...But I think it's great that you feel comfortable to talk about stuff here at HW
So Tase..what are you going to do to sparkle up your life and give yourselves something to look forward to?
Well tase if you have got nothing - then it's time to reinvent yourself..start from scratch...start writing down some things about yourself that you can change..I dunno what about some new clothes, fresh haircut - whatever takes your fancy really..maybe your wife would enjoy some of these things too..or how about if you change a few things then she may follow along with a few of her own..who knows what may happen?? All I know is that sitting around feeling sad is boring and soul destroying and that life is way too short to do this. about two months ago a dear girlfriend of mine has a severe stroke and died - she was only 56..that in itself was a wake up call for me..sheesh..way too young don't ya reckon?
Just here for a quick check in.
I accomplished some major work on my Home Theater this weekend. No anxiety. I have one more piece of aquipment I am waiting for, and that will be complete.
Of course I did not do any of the things that Maree suggested . Bad tase.
But we have been doing a nice walking DVD together during the Nor'easter and through the week. It felt pretty good to excercise. We got out and walked this weekend in the nice weather.
I will try and keep up with the excercising, and see if I can obtain my listed goal of feeling healthy.