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scotsgal
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   Posted 4/10/2007 1:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone,
 
I really don't know whats going on with me right now.
 
First I had a bad bout of depression which came over me in the space of a day..honest.
 
This was in Dec and went on for a couple of months, I got medication which seems to have completely made my mood disapear, good and bad and left me feeling dodgy.
 
I still feel teary a lot and rubbish, and feel all these emotions that I can't describe beacause I don't know what they are!
 
I went to see a councillor who says I have bad anxiety which has led to the depression but I don't get this!( You see I don'e panic or anything)!
 
So I'm confused. The way I'm feeling is seriously affecting my relationship towards my bf as ever since I started feeling like this I've had this weird feeling towards him, just him no-one else but I don't know what this feeling is! It makes me feel awkward towards him and upset as  I really really don't want to feel this way towards him, I want to be happy again, he hasn't done anything either hes been really supportive and caring towards me but I've hardly anything to return.
 
 
So my question is: Can these feelings towards him be caused by anxiety/depression?
 
Will they ever go away and can we be happy again?
 
Is my relationship doomed?
 
Can someone give me some info/help about anxiety/depression and how it may effect relationships? As I don't know where to turn! I don't find my councillor to be helping much.
 
Thanks very much everyone!

Depri
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   Posted 4/10/2007 1:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey scotsgal,

yes this feeling towards him can be caused by anxiety/depression. I heared it so many times before, it seems a lot of peops have that. I am sure it will go away, but as depression is a long lasting thing, it will take its time. I think it depends all on how you and your partner can handle this big problem until the episode goes away.

All the best!
Depri

ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/10/2007 4:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Scotsgal
Give the meds a few more months to take full effect before you make up your mind about anything.
Then I would seriously consider going to see a counselor and continue with that treatment.
The meds can help with the physical signs but not always the mental signs. In order to get better you have got to pinpoint what triggered the anxiety and depression.

Please keep us posted.

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froggy1011
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   Posted 4/10/2007 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Scotsgal,

It IS the depression. I found myself doing this, almost unconciously. I think that depression with all of its effects make everthing seem to be worse than it really is. Have you talked to your bf about you having depression. Talk to him I'm sure that he'll help in anyway he can. I know it's hard to think positively, but he is there for you and I bet he'll be there for you always. (but don't take my advice. I'm only 16. I probably don't know what I'm talking about) :)

Morgan

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   Posted 4/10/2007 5:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Morgan
just because you are only 16 does not mean we won't take your advice!
I think for 16 your are very mature and know (probably too much at times I am sure) alot.
You keep posting and giving your advice!!

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scotsgal
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   Posted 4/11/2007 1:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Got an appointment today with my councillor, my mum has phoned her...thanks mum! She told her that I need to see her sooner than once a month and that I didn't feel comfortable with the student there. I have asked my Mum to come with me too, I have nothing to hide from my fantastic Mother, in fact she probabley knows more than my councillor. Shes had to listen to me for so long.
 
Feeling a teeny bit better today! Don't have a clue why but nothings bothering me as much as normal. yeah
 
I hate how everytime I go to see my councillor I'm in a better mood, i think this is partly why I end up saying 'Yeah I'm ok doing fine' , then the next day I'm back in my state.
 
I was actually really teary waiting on the bus this morning, like I wanted to just burst into tears but I couldn't this was for no apparent reason! Weird...
 
Thanks for reading everyone!
 

scotsgal
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   Posted 4/11/2007 1:29 AM (GMT -7)   
p.s Yea Morgan you probabley talk a lot more sense than a lot of adults I know :) Keep posting =)

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 4/11/2007 3:58 AM (GMT -7)   

I want to start by saything this really is just my opinion / perspective on whats going on. Im no doctor and I could very easily be 'wide of the mark'

It does sound like depression but instead of the "feelings towards him be caused by anxiety/depression" how about reversing it. The depression/anxiety causing the feelings towards your bf. You mentioned that he has been really good to you. He has been supportive and caring but you have "hardly anything to return". Maybe you see the relationship as one-sided and because you feel you have nothing to return, you feel guilty and see this as a reason for the relationship to end. (Hence why you as "Is my relationship doomed?") I think a good long HONEST chat with your bf could clear up these feelings between you. If you had nothing to return then I think he would have gone before now, so you must have something. You are obviously a great person and I certainly don't think your relationship is doomed.

Having a student in the consulting room is enough to make anyone feel uneasy. I certainly wouldnt want it. Im glad that your mum has asked for the student not to be there. This may help you get the most our of your sessions.

Chin up, Stay strong and place one foot in front of the other. You will get to where you are going. Its only a matter of time.

Darren


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ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/11/2007 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Scotsgal
I am so glad your mom is stepping up and taking control!! You have the best support system that I could think of.

Good Luck on your appointment,and let us know how it went.


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froggy1011
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   Posted 4/11/2007 1:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Scotsgal,

I'm glad you're feeling better today, I'm feeling abit better myself! Maybe today is a happy day! I think the reson why you feel better after going to the counsler is that you feel better when you tell people about what's going on in your life, not just gossiping about someone else's life, that someone is actually there in person listening to what you have to say. I know I felt better when I finally went to my doctor! Hope everything is going well,

Morgan

p.s. I don't think I got your previous e-mail.

scotsgal
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   Posted 4/12/2007 1:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone,
well my councilling app went ok! For the first time I actually cried in front of her! And to be honest I feel a bit better, She was quite stern with me and it actually made me look at everything a bit clearer!

We talked about my bf and what went wrong etc and she says she strongly thinks we have a future together and that I'll be ok.

After sitting there telling her EVERYTHING. She says I am a classic case of anxiety and depression and I have to keep telling myself that instead of blaming everything on me! She also said that I need to lay off myself and stop analysing every little detail about everything.

I do honestly feel a tiny bit better after our chat because I have faced up to a lot of things I was scared to before and once she brought them up it felt as if something snapped and I kind of felt better. Just a bit though I was still relly teary yesterday afterwards.

My mum has suggested to her I see her once a fortnight instead of once a month and my mum also spoke to her about her view on how I've been, it kind of felt better with someone being there to support me and explain too, because I get soo confused about how I'm feeling sometimes and also because I don't actually know what IS wrong I don't know what to say to my councillor, resulting in me saying yea I'm ok!

She said I've to look forward now not back, and not try to get back to how I used to be because back then all the anxiety was brewing but be a new me, still the same Katie but without the anxiety/down days and blah!

Today has started ok, I hope it stays that way, but knowing me tomorrow could be a whole lot different....

Thanks everyone =)

ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/12/2007 4:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Scotsgal,
Doesn't it feel great to finally be understood?? It is like a huge weight has been lifted off of your shoulders.
And,again you have a great support system with your mom.
I read posts on here where the parents basically just ignore the kids,or say they are making it all up and it makes me so mad. I am again so glad your mom is by your side.
Please keep us posted and stay strong.


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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 4/12/2007 6:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Scotsgal,
 
Im so glad things are starting to move in the right direction. Its great that you have such a good relationship with your mum. Having that level of support from someone who really understands who you are and what makes you tick is so important. I hope everything continues to improve
 
Darren
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KodakPuppy
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   Posted 4/12/2007 10:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Scottsgal,
I am glad you went to see your councilor and also that your mom was there for you. Just recently I have let it all out with my councilor. He said he can't help me if I don't talk to him. I have always been such a private person and find it hard to talk about these things down so deep in there sometimes. I am begginning to feel some better about things. Please keep posting and I will write more later. Good night all.
KodakPuppy
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