Dear Scot's Gal
Hello, I am Kitt. I see some of myself in what you have said and in my case I feel it is low self-esteem. I need lots of reinforcement that people care but in the end it is me who has to feel good about myself.
People who have poor self-esteem tend to focus on and magnify their perceived shortcomings and ignore their strengths and achievements. It's like looking in the mirror and seeing a warped picture - a bit like the ones at fun parks that make you look distorted - completely blowing reality out of proportion.