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Ghost mom
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 4/30/2007 8:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all, I was just wondering if there were any other SAHMs out there struggling to get through the day? I was really hoping that when spring got here I'd feel more like doing fun things with the kids, but it's such an effort to do anything that we wind up sitting on the couch watching TV all day. I'm not really feeling depressed per se, but there's just a lack of anticipation or excitement about anything. I've been on Prozac for 5 years now, (off and on, varying doses) two weeks ago the Dr. raised it to 40 mg/daily to see if it would help the migraines. I keep waiting for this to pass and the good days to come again like they always do, but this really seems to be dragging on.

Anyway, it's all just so annoying. I want to be a good mom! I want to take my kids to the park and play with them and enjoy life again.

Thanks for listening to my rant, hope I can return the favor soon,

GM

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   Posted 4/30/2007 8:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ghost mom, Welcome to Healing Well forum we are most happy to have you join us here.  I can greatly understand about the depression but, I dont have children so I am sure that is even more of a stressor for those who have depression and having to find everyday motivation. 
There are many who can relate to you here and I am sure they will be along shortly to post replies to you.  I hope you find HW a comfortable place where you can share your thoughts and feelings...keep posting it does help.  Take care.

Elisha
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snowflake
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   Posted 4/30/2007 3:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Good morning Ghost mom hey we are all entitled to have a " rant " especially if it makes you feel a bit better .
I decided to stay at home when i had my children and it`s great that you have the chance to do the same .Now i have continued to stay at home and look after other peoples children.

Ihave suffered from severe depression and PTSD for many years and as with you find it a struggle to get through each day .How old are your little ones ?.I`m currently minding A 12MTH ...A 16MTH....A 3MTH.... AND A 7YEAR OLD .they are all great kids .

It does take a while for the adjustment of meds to settle down ,hoping it will make things better for you .I`m currently on blood pressure medication to control my migraines ( not for high blood pressure )and it has been fantastic i haven`t had any for several months the first time in 21 years .

I found out earlier on to have an interest of my own .That gave me something i liked to do and for me that was caring for children and animals .Four years ago we started an animal carers group ( i have been caring for animals for 27yrs by myself ) this has been great as they help pay for the animals food with fun raising . I currently have two baby (joeys) kangaroos and two green tree frogs , but any time there are always some type of animals around here .Maybe there is something that you are interested in that you can do while you are at home with your children .

Having outings to the park are great better still meet up there with a friend and have a picinic let the children play together while you keep an eye on them .Just little things helped me get through each day i would plan for the kiddies to do something different ie a craft of something .

Anyway time for me to feed my animals and get my teenagers out of bed otherwise they would sleep right through school and my littlies will be dropped off soon too i just keep really busy then i cant think of things and the day passed so quickly.

Take care catch you soon .
Restless.

faithfully4you
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   Posted 4/30/2007 7:00 PM (GMT -7)   
:-)  Welcome Ghostmom~
I am a SAHM only because I am disabled with depression and cant work right now.  However, I can relate exactly with what you are saying!  My youngest is 6 and he is so full of life.  Now that is is getting warm outside I feel guilty because I am home all day, usually doing nothing but moping and when he gets home he wants to play outside.
 
Of course, you would think that I worked my butt off all day because all I do is yawn and can't wait until it is bedtime.  I feel so bad and wish I could provide so much more time for my son.  He always asks me, hey mommy if you are not sick today when i get home can we go out and play?  This breaks my heart!
 
I know what you are saying and what makes it worse for me is that I usually don't even have enough money to survive on so I worry about that as well.
 
This is a great site, alot of caring people.
Teresa

Ghost mom
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 5/1/2007 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to every one, it's nice to meet you. I feel better just knowing there are others out there to talk to. (My husband doesn't believe in depression.) Just joining the board and reading some of the messages helps a lot. I even made myself put a hat on my (unshowered <Yuck>) head and sit outside yesterday with my girls. They had a good time running around the front yard and the sun felt nice.
Today's not so great, as I'm feeling overwhelmed by the kids, the messy house, etc.. I may need to escape back here a lot. Alright, I'm going to log off now and make myself at least empty the dishwasher before I log back on.

Take care,
GM

faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/1/2007 5:14 PM (GMT -7)   
nono  Hi again ghostmom~
We are glad to be able to be here for you.  I see you stated in your last post that your husband does not believe in depression.  My first husband did not either and it made my life hell!!  I know this is kind of personal but I wonder how healthy your relationship is with your husband.  I am asking for an answer I just want to let you know from my experience and counseling.  This can be a very damaging issue to your mental health.  As I stated, it is non our business what is going on with you in that respect the only thing I ask is that you investigate ways to keep yourself healthy!  It is so detrimental when your most loved persons are against you or have no interest in what you are going through.  It makes the loneliness so much more overwhelming.  Would he be interested in learning about what you go through?
I don't know if this is good advice for you or not but I recommended it to another member what I did for my situation.  I made my s/o aware of this site and what it offered me.  He did not live with me so he could access my posts whenever he wanted to understand something that was happening in our life.  This worked great for me for 2 reasons:  1) it gave him a forum in which he could actually (spy) or as I call it, stay in touch with what I am feeling.  He understood that this is a forum for me to talk out things that he doesn't understand or a forum in which I was more comfortable consulting because of the comrodery we have here.  2) It built a level of trust for both of us because he understood that there are people just like me that are going through similar issues at different degrees.  It gave him a greater understanding into what depression is and any disbelief he had he soon realized that hey this stuff is for real!
To use this advice you have to be comfortable with actually expressing how you feel so as not to curtail what the purpose of this forum is!
Hang tough, we are here yeah
Teresa

Ghost mom
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 5/2/2007 7:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Teresa,

Actually my husband is really wonderful. It's mostly my problem, I get depressed and I think he should be able to read my mind about how I'm feeling. I don't talk and he gets withdrawn, and I get more depressed. The few times I've actually talked to him about it he's listened and tried to help. but his idea of helping is to tell me I need to get out more or exercise and eat right. This is good advice, but I really just want sympathy, you know? He's just so very normal that it's impossible for him to understand the depression, the invisible, MENTAL pain that just rips through you and makes you want to curl up in a ball and cry and scream and rock back and forth. Now if I do the exact same thing when I get a vicious migraine, he totally understands. He's there with an ice pack or rubbing my neck. He knows how to help. I think he feels helpless with the depression because he can't do the man thing and fix it. I think that's why depression is hard on the other person, they want to help make it better. Believe me, if we knew a way to get some relief, we'd be doing it, right?

Well, I actually feel like I'm heading into some good days, so I'm going to take advantage of them and enjoy the outside with my girls a bit. Hope it lasts for a while.

Here's wishing you good days too, T.

GM
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